it's really that simple. steve: that's it. >> need ed, wanted and respected. think as your husband as a 4-year-old that shaves. if do you that on first base already. it's really simple. women are the complicated one fuss look at their needs. steve: what do they want? abby: what do we want? >> affection, communication huge. abby: we just want to feel special. >> we do. so does a man encourage his wife's activities, her work? does he help? does he come home and say what can i do? foreplay, i learned this a long time ago, is cleaning the kitchen, taking the garbage out without being asked and putting the stupid toaster away. abby: did you see the mr. clean commercial. really the husband dancing and how women when they watch their husbands clean? they want to have sex with them. >> speaking of advancing i thought early in my marriage foreplay was taking a shower and dancing for my wife. believe me that's not a good look.