>> and pam, you are in this awful situation where standing by your daughter in law means you are admitting to yourself and to your soul and your husband and your family that your son is dead? >> i believe everything tiffany has said. if you knew her, there would be no doubt. i mean it is -- technically she is my daughter in law, but i think of her as my daughter. >> tiffany, i have a question for you. did you at all discuss with your husband that perhapses it might be dangerous to go into the area because there have been previous reports of americans running into trouble there, having encounters with gang members in that area. >> we did discuss it. i asked him even before the week when was talking about it if that was safe because we had heard about the pirates.