be there, apologize when you're wrong, forgive, let it go. >> you have to let it go for other people. we always think how we need to, how we're always thinking about the grudges and things we keep against others, but what we need to look at how to forgive other people. >> jill, do you let it gun on the house wives? >> sometimes it takes me a while and i get there. i'm being honest, not so easy especially with cameras on you, and i am a real person that i don't always want to do it on camera. you know, a lot of things in my life are not on camera, people don't know i have three stepchildren, aim a step grandma and in fact came from a bert day party with my two-year-old grandson so my friendships, it was real and i wanted to talk to her off camera, didn't want to do this on the tv show, didn't want to do it. shoot me, i didn't want to do. that was a mistake in hindsight because you didn't see that and so it made me look like the bad guy. >> what is it about jewish men that makes them the best