it is like carrying an albatross around you. so there's a part of you subconsciously that wants the release of letting the secret out. so on some subconscious level, they do things that will ultimately result in the secret getting out. what does all this have in common? you cannot keep secrets about sexuality secret forever. it rarely happens. secrets do come out. >> and you know about it because you write about it in your book "addict nation." so you know firsthand about these things. here's my thing, what do we do from here with this information? because who's going to be the next person and salacious details are going to come out and we're going to be interested in that person. is there a lesson to be learned for us? where do we go from here, jane? >> the lesson is that honesty is always an option, even when you don't think it is.