Dear Abby: 'Helpful' husband is caught twice with younger women FacebookTwitterEmail A wife wonders why her husband lies about a relationship with a woman.PeopleImages/Getty Images DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 26 years. Five years ago, my husband gave a young lady $5,000 through credit card charges over a six-month period. We are not wealthy. When I found the charges in our credit report, he took a second job to pay it off. I don't think their relationship was sexual because he is impotent. It was hurtful. While he was taking this young lady shopping, he told me he was at work.