August 4th to speak on the avenue of spies. Thank you again to all veterans who are here and also to jonathan jordan. [applause] i am delighted to be with you today senator mccaskill i feel we should start at the very beginning which is the title. Which where did you come up with that . Is using has a little bit of irony and a trademark attitude. Guest and i hope a little humor. That i am confident will make them laugh or smile hearted different places. It is what happens in my life with the teacher said i need to quit speaking up so much in class that the boy is would not like the end it was not ladylike and theyre really impacted me and i was hurt. After my first debate telling the press that i was not very ladylike. So those two reaffirmed in my mind that i have to communicate to other young women is plenty ladylike to be opinionated and ambitious and i hope that is what is the hands for. Many of which are not nearly as craig and as outspoken but the notion to be ladylike it is pretty much of the allied air when i tell them in the entire history of the United States senate 44 of women have ever served at all that the population that is their but even if you ended up the of 100 years of history. Really that number is smaller because a huge number of those women because they died for a short period of time as whittle as wonder today says the men would scurry around to take the job. There is a very small number and of course, mikulski senator mikulski began the modern era where women elected in their own right were now here in a much bigger number. Host i again think that this project that you attack that head on with a clear understanding to be a member of a very small class in america can public life which is not to say that is how we should be but you address that headon as there is such a huge debate around this question are women inherently different in any sphere of public life versus the fact there is such a small group that you have that experience of the embattled minority. In half to navigate it mid20s running for office. I was in a Prosecutors Office surrounded by all men to my colleague said the Prosecutors Office and then in the legislature rate is maledominated. And then to overcome a bunch of stuff with sexist behavior i am not sure i handled that correctly or handled those but this will give young women an opportunity to understand how you can navigate to get stronger to figure out a way to excel despite the jerks that get it your way. Host clearly you had a natural aptitude because you were drawn to it but it is a hilarious i opening story mounting a very calculated campaign by systematically lobbying the lesser members of the Football Team who did they get the attention to be purposeful as such a young age and willing to tell that story. Did you always know at that time . Guest i did. From the time 1011 or 12 for 13. When i was seven years old i was told to say trick or treat a and vote for jfk. We were taught that politics is honorable. My mom had to stuff lots of envelopes and they worked on campaigns but they did get a sense it is interesting and i did tell an embarrassing story this is the first among publicly told a story that i mounted a campaign for homecoming queen. How embarrassing. That is a great example of how you think about your goals. But really i pulled off a campaign and thought it was a great way to reinforce the strategy of. I have been a consumer for a lot of the books there is the bookshelf and i never read an anecdote honestly because it is still reveal too much or dont say too much i am struck by that the you have taken a different approach to be willing to peel back the curtain was a risky . A colleague tried to talk me out of it to say you should not go there to tell people you are calculating how to become homecoming queen. But this was not about to dress me up to make me look like i am perfect and i will save america but especially the painful part with the failure of my first marriage and the fact my first husband was murdered the father of my children to deal with that with the shortcomings of might mother and of the key to anybody any favors that were not human beings if more people saw us as multi dimensional and fallible then we could communicate better than not to be quite so cynical. Has got to be in a little trouble especially at home because i named some names but thats okay. It is a daily occurrence for . One example reran an excerpt from the book and i can see why because it peels back the curtain on youre extraordinarily high profile else said their race and was soon to a certain extent he decided to become the default by airing advertisements in the Republican Primary Campaign to basically get the nominee that you did get the had the best chance to beat its november. But you never told that story of how to engage you were with that campaign. Talk about that now and your decision to be up front with people about what you were doing stick to it is a good example of having linen to be strategic have these my friends through the years in situations there is a reluctance to go there. I dont want to rock the boat but this is a situation where millions of dollars are spent at that time. Driving up my negatives millions of dollars were spent and those that basically had the same position in that one had a record and i knew he didnt have a filter with a religious view of government said to be careful about the way they talk about them but they decided in the summer of the primary season if we could send the signal so we spend money on of poll for the republican primary voters to be very above board and out in the open. I approve this message she is just too conservative for misery if you call this a dog whistle campaign. Right. But at the same time with the independent voters said misery they got the nomination in terms of his view is and though world and it helped him in the primaries and it worked. He went from second or third in the polls most of the polling we were looking act. Is out there in the public. We ran the ad and watch him climb and he won then exceeded the expectations. Then after that that the primary campaign was closing and. It was very tight and an extraordinary moment where the campaign got directly involved to be connected with the supporters about a key advertisements. I never not sure he got there himself but my company is very popular in misery and what was going on we do huckabee was very popular he was talking about the things we were talking about. Conservative values and family so they took down that had to put up another but collectively as the neck as said said republican strategist if you do the voters. I reached out to a couple of people will tell think that is very good they called the campaign but in broad generalities why we thought that ad was so good and they took our advice there was no polling data if shays of that nature but we gave them what we thought but they did take our advice. With hundreds of candidates this is the first time and upload it would take my advice. Host it is striking not only that you decided to tell that but it so as a curse but the transparency of rounded to talk publicly. But i think transparency is could always. I fell below the offensive there is nothing we had done that led that was not above board that wasnt done through operatives but that was our campaign. So that is great for women to see a campaign. That stuff goes on not always aboveboard so i felt it was important to show of little strategic three. Because the word is calculating and it is applied of student in public life with executive jobs. I struck by the fact with Cheryl Sandberg on the cover to generate so much conversation but there was a huge backlash but to be related to embrace to plan their careers to not be a career killer for women but to think much straightforward. There is less controversy and we agree completely. And in this but i have told so many stories i want the young women to see you dont have to be perfect. So without sacrificing a hard edge by some toward Career Advancement and the notion you will rock the boat because they give little extra of time off but ask for both ask for more time off a and a little more money. I think it is to but i am struck by the fact that it resonates dont be afraid to take your career did your own hands but how they have american politics or america did media. The corporate boards are terrible. Women leaders in any position so your 1 discount all the that is something you have done. I have been struck by what i have written by myself is the question to explain why we have so few women in these positions because there is a broader category of class a and women so of this extraordinary level of personal scrutiny and Eleanor Roosevelt all the way basket of the 30s to be a woman in public life you need to have the skin of a rhinoceros. Guest absence of a. My haters have a tough edge. It is really tough. But i have parents and my dad kept telling me we cannot get anything done without making somebody mad purpleheart. But they wan whberybody tociliatory. Be happy. And at the level with the ability to create a narrative to come out even more loudly in general. So that magnifies what is out there. I am not sure it did so effective. But this notion that only to enter politics but it in general tbn the publics fear to be well documented it is hard to recruit women because that is more you put yourself on space that is not on a safe subject. I see that all the time i have enormous interest in recruiting and in particular things like that. But it is stressful and women understand the penalty so i was struck by what is it your wiring or background that you dont worry as much about that or in internalize saying it . It motivates you. That is interesting. That holds narrative. When i was demoralized by the comments made to me and about me i was added to analyze and focus. I will show them that i will do well and continue to get raises by my bosses. I will rise in their system to be effective and and i just work that much harder so maybe he is that. So that conversion and machine. So of a woman politician who has the momentum is Hillary Clinton and another wellknown fact is your decision not to endorse clinton but brock of bombay in 2008 you give the account of that is in your book and you say your daughter was a key catalyst for that. There are too amazing candidates historic give their own way. What my mom would called good old boys a was a strong smart woman and an africanamerican inspirational leader. We had worked together he was my friend i was inclined to support them because the was inspired by was elected and my daughter got it my face our entire lives you tell us you have made sacrifices when it comes to the family to make a difference and now with an important moment in history youre not endorsing prop. Obama and because of your political sketchy is run average rate about the flowback from womens supporters to allow bt is succeed but i called the next day and told the now president and that i was in from that day forward. There was though backpedaled it was specifically addressed to you but maybe had others in mind to say there is nothing worse than women who dont support other women. It did hurt at the time that my a counter argument is we are fighting for a level Playing Field. We cannot begin to which she if and to what they did to us. We will assume you are better just because you are a woman. So the door swings both ways. So i did think while it was a hard decision to be elected president now i am working just as hard for Hillary Clinton and it is hard. And i am for you. And then i do everything i can to help her get elected senate cash she won that primary . Not all my kids are there yet certain if theyre trying to figure this out. Ive learned a lot from them and try not to tell them what to think. I want them to come to their own conclusions i am not sure theyre all there yet but they will get there. But itd different way in 2008 this time as well but there are these persistent questions with the surgeon of birdie sanders in the polls as an interesting phenomenon. Is an ad and a desire to have a conversation . We have a cast of thousands on one side i am not seeing any of them and to speak out but to speak to issues that the care about. So as a rock day but dash so day blockade different path. Is the long run if you get outside my party to decide president ial elections. Set to vote for a man for president herself identifies it is ironic we spend eight years with broccoli, to be criticized. If you realized she is an amazingly strong position in the more she keeps her head down to earth this nomination i begin his fiveyear she runs or joe bided run she needs to earn the nomination and she wants to she was to show she is a fighter. What is striking initiate was criticized the the historic nature of the candidacy. At the end of the primary but with the famous class speeling one dash ceiling speech but then she had made many . But clearly she has come to a different place as the persons assets. When you think of your own experience on the campaign trail to talk about a woman senator or a woman president , what is your advice to Hillary Clinton . We have talked about this. Is my race for governor of was so anxious to provide was qualified every answer to every question. This is about the the a woman but qualified. So to remind me of the obnoxious candidate. Bandaid focus group with a focus group. Laughter we shy to figure out. And then we work our way through school as a waitress i grew up in a house where he hunted and his family had the food mill and i had not filled out who i was. I was a person. That is something Hillary Clinton should keep in mind. That her mother was very effective in she is to show some vulnerability. It is easy to get into the bunker with a mistake she made from the emails cave from that wanting to protect your personal information not the issue is doing anything wrong but that is the thing but what was the motive . Where she on the payroll with china . Is that what they are alleging . So i really dont think she should spend so much time being protected but they have a more full picture of who i am the good and the bad and the ugly. Is an interesting case study with men and women in these positions to attract criticism said this is easy for Corporate Executives to be in a similar position. Go back to the unusual roles to navigate of family and politics that they would push and prod to talk about even at a young age there is a wonderful anecdote to ask your the a in your career to come with you i am gathering that is not just a party. Maybe he was seven or six or five i would say were going to a party given in the car. So i told him to get ready. But then they dont realize how loud their whispering they said listen if she says if it is a party ask her if somebody will give a speech. If they give a speech it is not a party. [laughter] but if there was says of barrier but my guess is it enables you to keep integrating your family as so many women struggle with the idea that there is family time at the expense of the other. Where do you fall . When iran for prosecutor in kansas city i did not put my children in any of my literature i was worried they would begin is inappropriate for me to take that on with some danger associated. But now i cannot wait to take them and my nine grandchildren. So i want my children to be a part of my life. So to the up part of it to the highlight of life and my two daughters traveled with me during the summer 2012 for the campaign. But they said i dont want to do that. You dont have a boss to check with i never would miss except when i was at trial i could not leave but i would take off to go see my son. I may have to work on saturday were go to a speech at night but there was no flexibility but then to pull the minute that extends. That does the results. You clearly talked in the senate as well there is of great example from the hampshire with her small child and tell me about Hillary Clintons campaign. To be held hostage data Clinton Campaign offices she was the attorney general in she had the phone in her year mulally were getting instructions to think this is just your real but the juxtaposition to bait your newborn wall directed the state Highway Patrol in a serious situation lifeanddeath is at stake is one great example but there are lots of great examples with the integration of your career and motherhood is but the and interesting. Everybody had that moment that the male colleagues have had. And then to have a Radio Program we used to do i know now what happened but you could hear it at the time for i had no idea. You were great this morning but nobody else had told me and i felt modified actually with the dogs in the background children crying and yelling at each other as long as they can hear me. [laughter] but to come back to this question in that institution i will put issued a little bit because i feel contradictory things for those in these political positions. There is a sisterhood. We are there for each other with a Bipartisan Group and we also hear to be more collaborative. Said to have had their death but to endures Hillary Clinton and with a level Playing Field to replicate those failures for the past but where do you come down is this part of the historical experience . You can make decisions about gender and at the same time have a disposition that allows you to work on problems whether or not you one or cop the credit. But the difference, it is said to complicated we all head to go through this savings and it is hard. If you get there there is an immense number of staying this event,. Even though i have future disagreements on policy there is still a collegiality that comes from our shared experience with motherhood over getting around to talk about sex as of earlier in your career. So we dont want to throw each other under the bus but lets get the difference call harry and mitch talk about each other and to each other. They are back to each other like this. All the time. It hasnt always been that way but it is now. For those sectors clear they dont like each other very much. I thank you can get more done if you kind id like each other so if we keep looking to do a little better than everyone else, i think that this is what is wrong with washington because he thought that would be at their expense. For them to a takeover but now we need to return the favor the day did to us . Now we have to do that with them. I do think that is a difference to have even more deals and compromises. The i