Eastern and central time zone we will hear from you at 202 7488000. If you are in that mountain and pacific time zones, 202 7488001, and keep in mind you can always text us at 202 7488003. We are always reading on social media on twitter and facebook. We are all under stress now because of the coronavirus pandemic, but a new report from the American PsychologicalAssociation Shows that stress is taking a toll on parents. I will read to a little bit from that report right now. Many are experiencing considerable stress related to the virus and are reporting higher levels of stress than in recent years. American parents are on average suffering significantly higher levels of stress than adults without children. It is related to education, basic needs and missing out on major milestones. The average stress level related to the coronavirus pandemic or adults is 5. 9. When asked to rate their level in general, the average reported stress or u. S. Adults is 5. 4. This is higher than the average level reported in the 2019 survey which was 4. 9 and marks the first significance increase in average reported stress since the survey began in 2007. The average stress level over the past month related to the pandemic for parents of children compared with. 7 5. 5 or adults without children with nearly half of parents 46 , saying their stress level is eight andeen number 10, compared with 28 of adults without children who say the same. We are going to be talking with parents later about how you are dealing with stress and what type of stress we are seeing. First we went to hear from someone from the American Psychological association. Bright. Talk to dr. Good morning. Guest good morning. Feelingy our parents more stress than the average american . Guest when we asked parents what was it that was causing them stress, the things included having to manage Distance Learning for their children, accommodating new routines, concerns about a Family Member being sick, about Meeting Basic Needs like food and housing, and missing out on milestones like graduation and weddings. Host what should parents be doing to deal with their own stress, and perhaps to deal with the stress of children under 18 who are still at home . Guest children can pick up on how their parents are feeling and doing. It is important that we model for them how to approach this in a organized manner. In order to do that, we have to manage our own emotions. Eatingre that we are healthy, staying active and getting enough sleep and staying socially connected with loved ones and that means virtual connections. If you can do those things, then you are better able to manage your own anxiety and stress around this situation and that models for kids that they can handle the situation. Host a lot of times when we talk about parents and children, we are talking about people with younger children. What about parents whose children are collegeage and back at home . A lot of colleges send their kids home in the middle of the semester. How do you deal with the older children who are now back at home and possibly not knowing what is going to happen in the fall or the summer . Guest aldrin older children are dealing with a lot of uncertainty. Their semesters just got snatched away from them. They are having to come back and live under the situation where they did not have the freedom that they probably had in college. There is a lot of having to negotiation and compromise. It is ok to have more open and honest conversations with them about how we all need to Work Together to adjust to this new situation. Host what made the association to look at parents at this time . Following that data, seeing an increase in the average stress level. Parents with children under the age of 18 seem to be the hardest they were reporting high levels of stress. Some of the transitive seen in the past, oath mothers and fathers reported significant levels of stress. There was no significant difference between the two. Host the association normally does stress in america once a year but now you are doing it monthly. , and what is the monthly data showing you that you did not see in the yearly data . Guest we been doing the annual surveys for the last few years. This year we wanted a different approach and do them on a monthly basis. This is really the first data that we looked at. The idea is to get a pulse of what the nation is going through to help inform decisionmakers about the needs that people are experiencing because of the pandemic. Host looking at some of the data that came from the report, the biggest issues seem to be worrying about a Family Member getting coronavirus, the government response to coronavirus, and disrupted routines. ,hat are you telling people ways to deal with those issues . Guest a lot of the issues have to deal with the uncertainty. It is important to find things in your control. It is about reminding us of the things that are out of our control and interferes with the ability to plan. One of the things is how much information we take in daily. People need to stay informed but we know that watching the news constantly can drive up anxiety. Pay attention to credible , andes, get what you need then let it go for the rest of the day. We really need to be disconnecting from screens a bit more and spending time with our family a bit more. Host do you expect the stress level to automatically go down as states reopen, whether limited reopening or full reopening . Do you suspect these numbers will decrease or will this stress continue until there is a vaccine or something where we dont have to worry about getting coronavirus again . Guest that is part of why were doing these surveys. I would not necessarily expect it to go down automatically. Of socialre tired distancing and do what the economy to open up, there is a lot of fear whether or not things are safe, and there is a level of uncertainty about what is safe and some of the changing information that we have gotten makes it hard to make those assessments. The anxietynk levels will exactly go down, but i think we will still need to social distance in order for people to feel safe to go back to normal. Host are there specific resources you can point parents to to deal with stress for just themselves or for their children at home . Guest i can start with their apa. Org, and we have a page dedicated to the pandemic. There are sections there for articles and tips about how to manage stress. I want to highlight two resources. We did a podcast with a child psychologist where he spoke about what parents could do to manage the situation, and secondly, this site has been s wherevideos of site books are being read out loud. If you follow our facebook page, that is the easy way to see where those videos are. Host we spent a lot of time talking about stress on parents. What about everyone else . Are there specific resources that you give to people or not parents at this time . Guest there are Additional Resources on our website, but it starts with this foundation, taking care of yourself. Selfcare can make people feel like they are being selfish, but really it is about making sure that you are being physically safe and emotionally safe. To stay emotionally safe, you need to keep yourself together and keep the stress down as well as engaging in activities that make you feel like you have some sense of control over what is a pretty uncontrollable situation. Host anything else you want to add about we can do to deal with stress . Guest i think an important thing to remember is people are really resilient. If we can think back on the past, think about events that felt like we would never get through, maybe a divorce, but we did get through it and we came out on the others idea even stronger. Wheres a situation individuals can do that, come out on the other strong side stronger. We would like to say thank you for coming on with us this morning and talking about the new report on stress with parents. Parents outear from there, how are you dealing with stress during the coronavirus pandemic . Are you looking forward to states reopening and possibly your kids going to summer camp or back to school in the fall . On regional lines this morning. If you are in the eastern or central time zone, we went to hear from parents at 202 7488000. If you are on the mountain or pacific time zone, the number is 202 7488001. You can always text us at 202 7488003. We are always reading on social media on twitter and cspan and on facebook. We are going to start out by talking to dan in virginia. Good morning. Caller good morning. I am in a unique situation. I have an older killed in college, one that is just graduating high school, when coming into high school and one in middle school. Ive got the full span right now. Resilient. Pretty my 18yearold and 21yearold are both working. There are jobs out there if you are confident enough and bold enough to get out there and work. I am still working. Makes thishis unique is we are a military family. We are a marine corps family. Int training has spilled over my kids. You need confidence. The psychologist was speaking about this anxiety. Part of the training is this is sort of a deployment. Marines always want to get the word. Even when you get the word, there is a 10 suspicion that it is not accurate. You learn to deal with that underlying anxiety. It seems like what the United States is going through, and they do not understand how the world works. There is never perfect information. Even those in charge do not have perfect information. But they have to make decisions. My kids grew up in a culture of that, and i think they are more resilient. They are not scared. Two of my kids that could never before they do that now because i have had extra time. Even if im working from home, im still getting my salary, so we are a unique set. That truth would be accurate whether i was here in the United States, in japan, it does not matter. It all goes back to being resilient and trusting yourself. You, how hasask the Online Learning been going in your house . Student,th a college we kept teaching at the universities, and i know a lot ghsthe elementary and jr. Hi attempted to move online, which in some places worked well and some places didnt which also causes stress. How has your experience been . Robust as i not as wish it had been. The College Students think i am not getting my moneys worth. She is outofstate and does not go to school here in virginia, but she says it is not the same. I like going into school and engaging with the instructors. I like that aspect of it. The high school student, not so much engagement. A 4. 0 plus student, so she just got done taking all of her tests this week. Kid, and shet teaches as her job is the other thing. The little ones, here in virginia, navy its the school district, eight is not as robust , so any of the teaching is really coming from us as the parents. Anxietye an underlying that the security i felt in education was being taking care of, and i understand that no parent can fully forfeit that education to somebody else, but the confidence that i had has dwindled down. Lets talk to leon from washington, d. C. We are just trying to do things together to keep our spirits up, studying together, just like the same situation it was when school was open. To try to open schools, that is crazy. You still have a lot of people Walking Around and do not know if they got it or not. Testing,y get adequate and that may not be until years from now, we have to stayathome. Grandchildren do you have . A lot of times people forget about grandparents and their responsibilities. How many grandchildren do you have . Their showing any signs of stress from being home . Caller ive got 13 grandchildren, and the ones that are older are not showing any signs of stress. They are glad school is out. I say that is very important. , are yout about you seeing any additional stress in yourself because of the pandemic . Numbersthere are high of people who are infected with the coronavirus. Caller with social distancing, guidelines, i have been blessed. Round to be of around friends, things like that. Youve got to keep your faith in god, that is the main thing, and everything will be all right. Host this is charles from illinois. Good morning. Are you there . Caller yes. How are you . Host i am doing good. Caller i am worried about my patients. Host what do you do for a living . Caretaker not a caretaker, a caregiver. I take care of crippled people. Host what sort of stress level are you seeing and what sort of stress level are you seeing in your patients . Caller i am not stressed at all. I am just watching television. I am worried about going outside. To s what are you doing alve your worries during this pandemic . I read the bible. Rita from new to jersey. Good morning. Caller good morning. Topic inuch a great new jersey. We have here Online Learning or , whoren, and my sister lives in new jersey also, she adopted her granddaughter, and she is going crazy with this Online Learning. , andaby just wants to play she is not computer savvy. So every time she goes on and ,ries to go into these websites it does not work for her. The baby just laughs at her. Hergets frustrated, and answer was she went out and bought a puppy. The baby is in heaven she feels that they really should just repeat the year because you have to have a degree in new jersey to teach what they are telling you to teach her children online. You really do. It is very difficult. So what she did was she went out and bought some learning books and she teaches her herself maybe an hour during the morning and an hour in the afternoon because you have to have a degree to teach these kids. I do not know the big deal of maybe trying Summer School or just repeating the year for the children because that kid, all that she learned she basically forgot. She just wants to play. She is only six years old. That is my,. For people who are not patient, just be patient, take it a day at a time. God is telling us to stay home right now. I am very worried about a second wave now that they opened up the beaches. It is like we are going to go all the way back from the beginning. It is not worth it. For you in the south, you do not want what we have in new jersey. Be very, very careful. Host this is doug who was calling from washington. Good morning. Sayer i was just going to that all of my kids except one son is working. I am retired and my weick is working at home. My wife is working at home. Over it,earned so much but everything changes about the pandemic. We learned more and more, so we are pretty comfortable where i am at, and we have zero cases here. Rks. Ave not had any in fok but i have a sister in marilyn who is scared to death to go out of her house. Maryland who is scared to death to go out of her house. Host a lot of us are working from home now and having to get used to the new normal of everyone being in the house while youre still trained to get work done. How is that working for your wife . It is not a problem. It is just me and my wife and my motherinlaw. , and ijust hanging out am better off, i am pretty fortunate. I just feel for everybody else and the kids and what is going on. Thank god for trump to keep things going and everything will get better, i hope. Just feel for everybody else i felt bad for everybody that is going through a lot worse than me. Oft this is the beginning the long numeral they weekend and during a White House Briefing yesterday dr. Birx spoke to us about what people could do to stay safe with their safe reopening states reopening. We been working with estates about what proactive surveillance would look like to find people who are asymptomatic but it is also quite we continue to recommend that you cannot tell who is infected. That is why you have to continue to social distance. That is why you need to continue to maintain six feet apart. I remember in the early days of hiv people told me all the time that they knew who was infected. I would say you do not know who is infected. I could be. You are just saying you do not think i am because i look healthy. There is a lot of Healthy People out there with covid that look healthy. We are asking continuously for you to be outside, enjoy your memorial day weekend, play golf, and be outtennis with your families that you have your household with. Even consider social distance space as long as you have utensils that belong to individuals and that may be could be thrown out immediately. I know you can do this. I know the American People can do it. As you go out this weekend, please understand you can go out , you can play golf, you can go to the beaches if you stay six feet apart, but remember that is your space. That is a space you need to protect to ensure you social distance. Host we are talking to parents this morning about how you are dealing with being at home and the stress levels for both you and your children. When i say parents, i am not just talking about mom and dad. Ran parents are also dealing with this. Regional lines are open. Grandparents are also dealing with this. The regional lines are open. This is jaclyn from new orleans. Good morning. Good morning. I am a mother, and i also am a grandmother but my grandson is not at school. He is a little toddler, but on behalf of the children in school, i believe that we should not rush the children back to schools if we have ways to teach them ourselves. I know some may not be educated enough to do so, but we can pass the wisdom down to them like our parents taught us. A lot of our parents did not have a third grade education, but they taught us. When isugar from flour was three years old. I was the last child to go to school out of nine kids. Ihave a 16yearold son, and am not letting him go back to school no time soon because these people are making decisions about our lives to their spec out there. Once we find out these kids start spreading germs and bringing it back home, then they will say it lets close the schools down. I am not rushing my child out there. I am paying attention, but not paying attention to what they are saying. I am paying attention to what is going on and listening to what the lord is saying about this. We cannot rush our children back out there. It is like beating them to the lions den. To the host i want to read a little bit about this story because it deals with exactly what the color mac caller was talking about. ,ne saving grace of the virus the effect on children seems minor. Now there is evidence that the virus can cause serious illness in children, though such cases are rare, they have parents worried and it might influence decisions to reopen