star join the family. >> the world was waiting for someone, and diana delivered. >> did you find it difficult to adapt? >> i did, yes. purely because there was so much attention on me when i first arrived on the scene. >> the more the media attention grew on her, the more troubles it created in her marriage. >> as in all families, there will be jealousies caused by this glamorous newby coming in. >> she quickly became one of the most famous women in the world. ♪ ♪ >> diana, diana, diana. >> diana has no idea what's about to hit her. she's only 21. and she's about to make her debut on the world stage. she's embarking on a six-week tour of australia and new zealand. >> it's her first international outing as her royal highness. it's an unbelievable responsibility for a 21-year-old. and she has got to prove she is up to the job. >> prince of wales led the way, but it was his princess who drew most attention. young prince william after strong lobbying by his mother was also allowed to come on tour. >> charles was a veteran by then, so he knew the ropes. diana didn't. this was hugely daunting for her. >> i was thrown into the deep end. i learned to be a royal in one week. >> pre-diana, there was zilch interest in the royal family. along comes diana and, boom, it all changes. >> the crowds went absolutely mad about diana. >> they came up with a name for her. it was dimania. >> after the wedding, the royal family really thought that the attention on diana would die out, but diana was lightning in a bottle. she was so different from the rest of the royal family. >> there's a big difference between the queen. she's sort of above everybody else, untouchable, if you like. diana comes in and she's very much hands on. >> diana physically embraced the people that were there to see her. the ways in which she reached into the crowd to shake hands and crouched down to hug children. >> diana herself was totally overwhelmed, but just the intense interest in her. >> at the sydney opera house, the drive through the city brought the people out in their tens of thousands to catch a glimpse of this woman the world had made so much fuss about. >> they were working through the crowds, i took the photograph and someone threw a small posy of flowers. it flicked on to diana's face and she got afraid initially, but then she started to weep. >> hadn't done anything specific like lime everest of something wonderful like that. >> there was a kind of sense of an imposter syndrome. she didn't really deserve this. >> in such a short time she went from being a nursery teacher to marrying the heir to the throne to stepping into this global spotlight with everybody watching her every move. i can't fathom the pressure that she felt. >> we all know how it ends, but it's a mistake to think that charles and diana's marriage was always sort of as bad as we all seem to think. in fact, early on, there was a real love connection and a closeness. >> i was lucky enough to marry her. and we had many, many messages. ♪ amazing what ladies do when their backs are turned. >> lots of photographs where he's just gazing at her, looking into her face. and you could see it, charles was in love with diana. you can't disguise that. >> there were real genuine moments of happiness, especially when they were with william. >> prince william have a favorite toy? >> got a plastic whale that throws things at the top, little balls. >> it was, in fact, the place where william took his first steps, charles wrote about it in an almost rap sottic letter saying how much fun it was. initially she was really overwhelmed, but the more she did it, the more she became confident. it was the sort of crucible for diana to prove herself. and she did brilliantly. >> charles at first is thinking, brilliant, she's such an asset. fantastic. but then of course things shifted again. >> they chanted for her. >> she obviously had to take one side of the street, and charles took the other side of the street and there were audible groans from people who got charles. >> she was horrified that people were graf stating toward her rather than the heir to the throne. >> i've come to the conclusion that really it would have been far easier to have had two wives to have covered both sides of the street. and i could have walked down the middle directing the operation. >> he made light of it, but it was something that bothered him. >> charles found it very difficult to have diana steal his thunder. he had spent his entire life as the star of the show. >> he resented diana's popularity because he thought that it was all sort of unearned. and he actually said, you know, what is it they love about her? all she said was say yes to me. >> he took it out on me. he was jealous. i understood the jealousy, but i couldn't understand i didn't ask for it. >> the real shame is he didn't see the potential there for both of them and how much diana's star power could have really benefitted the royal family. >> balloons greeted them in canada as the princess continued the process of being introduced to the commonwealth. >> when the royal couple got to canada, diana had changed. there was a selfish, a confidence. >> she was on the front cover over newspaper, every magazine, all over the world. >> the royal family wasn't giving her that feedback. it was something she was craving. what a boost that must have been. >> as a young woman, that would mean a lot. >> she was beginning to realize her own power, her own res resonance. the fact that people just loved the daughter. >> big royal trip, australia, new zealand, canada, massive. massive really only for one person, massive for diana. >> here they are, barely two years in and diana is becoming this global icon. and that really starts to put a strain on their marriage. >> there was a change in sense of where the power and the love was. that was going to stay like that forever. people, with quickbooks live someone else will do your books for you. they'll even pair you with an expert bookkeeper like me, who knows your business. knows... your... business! expert bookkeepers who understand your business. intuit quickbooks live bookkeeping. tv: mount everest, the tallest mountain on the face of the earth. keep dreaming. 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towards them, big kisses, big hugs, which we really not used to because in previous generations of royal mothers didn't display their emotions in public. >> charles was brought up in such a different environment than the way diana raised her boys. the queen was largely absent because of her work, her royal duty. there just wasn't a lot of affection in his childhood. >> she realized that she had the opportunity to shape the future of the monarchy through her influence on her boys. one of the key themes of diana's life is the sense of abandonment. she felt abandoned by her mother during the acrimonious divorce between earl spencer. and she was determined that her own children would have a nurturing environment that they could grow up in. >> she insisted that they go to school so they could mix with their peers, that they weren't off in the palace learning from a governess but they were out in the world. >> she said i'm going to do the school run, be sports stays and school plays. this made her exceptionally relatable to ordinary people w. she wanted to make sure that these boys realized that not everybody had the privileged life that they had. >> she took them not just to amusement parks and hamburger alleys but to hospitals, to homeless shelters to really get a sense of what modern britain was about. you can see today that sense of compassion that both young men have got, which is directly related to their relationship with their mother. the public image was very rosy. behind the scenes the couple were rowing. it was certainly not happy families. >> in 1985, they did a television interview, and the whole purpose of it was to show the stories about strife in the marriage were untrue. >> i suspect most husbands and wives find they often have arguments. >> but we don't. >> no, no. but occasionally we do. >> no, we don't. >> charles and diana were fundamentally incompatible. they were like chalk and cheese. >> the 12-year age gap in itself was problematic. diana was 24, charles was 36 and he was an older 36 just because of growing up knowing that you're going to eventually be the king of england. >> she is absolutely pure 20th century woman and he is fundamental 19th century man. he's super into his watercolors and archaeology and history. and she loves dancing. she's full of energy. she's full of life. >> the only commonality existed between them was william and harry, the children. and inevitably tensions grew. >> diana did feel that she wasn't getting enough attention from charles. we have to remember that diana grew up in a broken family. she wanted this close, tight n knit family. that meant that charles needed to be a part of it, but he wasn't. he was busy doing his royal duties and it started to wear on her. >> getting married as a very young virgin bride and then having two sons in quick succession, i think diana felt isolated, unappreciated, unsupported. >> diana wanted charles' attention all the time. she had this craving for love. i 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before. she did not seem to be removed from them. >> this was the height of the special relationship that existed between the uk and the u.s. but i think what's less well known is actually the relationship that prince charles had with the reagans. >> charles had become very good friends with ronald and nancy reagan. he met them originally back in 1974. and he and nancy reagan just really hit it off. and later on, she was one of the first people outside the royal circle that he confided that his marriage was in deep trouble. >> back at the white house, all was ready for a formal dinner. it was an evening of high glamour, guest list chosen by mrs. reagan. >> the reagan's put together a star-studded dinner. it was just hollywood meets the white house meets the royal family. >> people like clint eastwood, neil diamond, every socialite that nancy reagan knew -- >> john, you going to dance with the princess tonight? >> if she would like me to. >> the high point of the evening was nancy reagan orchestrating john travolta to ask diane to dance. >> i think diana thrived in these moments where the spotlight shown so brightly on her. diana wasn't phased at all. she loved to dance. >> here she was dancing with john tra voltatravolta, one of celebrated dancers, she came alive. >> it showed diana's star power was really equal to that of a major hollywood star. >> screaming for the princess wherever she went. >> thousands gathered along pennsylvania avenue to catch a glimpse of the motorcade bringing the visitors to the national gallery of art. >> charles agreed to have a press conference to talk about the exhibit that he was opening. and all they wanted to talk about was diana. >> to the core of the issue first, had the princess enjoyed her dance with mr. travolta. >> i'm not a glove puppet, so i can't answer for that. i think you enjoyed it, didn't you? >> the tension there was palpable. she was exasperated. >> this was not idea's idea. nancy reagan asked john travolta to ask her to dance. she was trying to make her husband and his family proud. but in these moments when her star shone so bright it overshadowed everything he was doing and he could not hide his disgust. >> charles had been to the united states a number of times, and everywhere he went he was the center of attention, of adulation. when he was in los angeles, meeting a group of women, they squeezed his hands so hard that the diamond rings they were wearing cut into his hand. >> i shook his hand, which is enough for me. i mean, it's just unbelievable. >> that was the backdrop against which his visits to the united states with diana have to be seen. the more she took the spotlight from him, the more inadequate he felt. >> charles felt outshone and didie that felt her efforts were unappreciated. increasingly her public success was making their private relationship a lot more difficult. move your high-interest debt to a sofi personal loan. earn $10 just for viewing your rate — and get your 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always said that he was the love of her life. if diana has got the love and affection from prince charles, she would never dreamt of looking elsewhere. >> diana herself said when she was in her early 20s, she fell madly in love with a man that worked for the royal household. >> by diana's own admission, she played with fire and she got badly burned. >> i was the personal protection officer for the princess of wales for nine years. barry was protection officer in our team. i started to notice her behavior was unusual when we were anywhere near barry. which was certainly indicating that something may have happened between them. so i decided to talk to her about it. and for the first 20 minutes she absolutely, categorically denied it, but then she told me exactly what was going on. she was having some sort of relationship with barry. >> she was smitten. she's having her first crush after her marriage. she never had a boyfriend before she met charles. she's living life almost in reverse. >> i do understand why someone like princess diana, who didn't have a loving husband or a happy marriage, would become susceptible to looking at barry. he's representing everything that she doesn't have in her life. warmth, strength, presence. >> my main thing was to try and persuade her just how dangerous and impossible it would be for her to remain with the boys. it was just lunacy. >> it was incredibly high risk for diana. it's right under charles' nose and makes you wonder about how much attention diana was getting from charles if he was missing it. >> the way she felt was so strong. it wasn't going to stop. we arranged for barry to be transferred away from the department. the excuse being used to the prince of wales was his domestic circumstances the hours he was working. they went on a joint engagement and she was clearly very upset. the prince of wales approached me and said why is the princess behaving in the way she is? what on earth is the matter? so i said, you've got to talk to her. he said i've tried all that and the only thing that seems to be upsetting her is that barry is going back to uniform. and if she's that upset, barry can stay. that stage i was forced to say, well, sir, if he stays then i'm afraid i'll have to leave. and i think at that point the penny dropped. he was utterly shocked and was clearly, clearly very upset. the popular perception is that the prince of wales was straying all the way through his marriage, and that is definitely, unequivocally not the case. the first person that strayed was the princess. he went back to see mrs. parker boles after he learned about her affair with barry. nobody is the villain. in my view, everybody is a victim. he was under a lot of pressure to get married. and she, too, was the victim of this whole process. >> worst day of my life was realizing that charles had gone back to camilla. >> prince charles never stopped loving camilla parker. when the opportunity arose, he went back to her. >> when you analyze these two different affairs, there's a huge difference. charles was rejecting diana because he loved somebody else. diana was never really rejecting charles. she was just desperate to be loved. >> for princess diana, it was the realization of her worst fear because she had always suspected that camilla was her husband's great love. >> diana was at a really low end. there was even a moment when she took a penknife and cut herself. her bulimia became very intense. they were in vancouver and they were touring this exhibition. diana sort of moved close to charles and sort of touched his arm and then she started to slide down to the floor and she fainted. >> police took the whole thing very seriously. in slow motion you can see she was in some distress. the prince attempted to look out of concern followed behind. >> it was all very embarrassing. >> she looked reasonably well recovered at the evening's government dinner but it was probably a banquet she should have done without. >> even doctors advise she stay in bed, prince charles insisted that she accompany him. >> the prince made a joke of the whole affair. >> really entirely due to the extremely advantageous conditions that pertain in british columbia, which ensured she's about to have 60, which is really why she fainted. >> he showed a lack of sympathy. it was an indication that she didn't care as much. that something had gone out of the marriage. >> charles did not understand her eating disorder. i think it was frustrating and confusing to him. >> it was a very different era where people didn't understand eating disorders very well at all. but he actually went one further than that. he made cruel jokes. >> charles would still say, oh, is that going to -- >> there's so much shame attached to the condition. it's pretty much the worst thing you can say to someone battling that disease. it's her coping mechanism. she feels with her bulimia that she can control something in her life. >> so much of the attention around her was on her appearance. her thinness was often celebrated. and it just continued into a really damaging cycle. >> the royal family does not know how to deal with this because bulimia centers around emotions. so she's alone and she's longing for somebody to love her and support her. james hewitt was this dashing, dreamy, 28-year-old household calvary officer. he was on duty at buckingham pa palace. she threw him this comment, nice outfit. and invited him to a drinks party. >> knowing that james hewitt was a riding instructor, she invited him to give her riding lessons to help her overcome her long standing childhood fear of horses. >> he was someone who was fun, who was unswerving in his devotion to her but also there was a tremendous excitement and romance. >> it was amazing difficult for them to find somewhere to meet privately. we would go to windsor to meet with hewitt for riding lessons. >> unlike charles and camilla, all their friends knew about their relationship and would host them at their big estates and homes, diana couldn't do that. hewitt was boot in the boot of cars, he was driven to kenningston palace. >> she was invited to go to his mother's house where we would go for weekends. it was a remote location. but it was always a tense time because she was very easily spotted. if the princess of wales and hewitt went for a walk in the woods or on a beach somewhere, she certainly wasn't looking like a princess. she would be in normal day clothes, hoodie, dark glasses. the hair would be covered up. although she may have some romantic notion of going off with james hewitt, i think she was also very much a realist. she was the princess of wales. she was the mother of the future king. she couldn't just go off and live with this rather imp impoverished army officer. >> there was no question of divorce then. soon it was a fantasy for them both. >> charles absolutely knew about the affair. in fact, approved of it because it gave him more time and space 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friends in the bottom with their umbrellas. >> dressing up as policewomen and going to anna bell's nightclub on prince andrew's stag night. >> they were skiing together and messing around on the slopes. >> i met so many balls. >> all those kinds of things irritated prince charles beyond belief and diana realized this wasn't really her. she wasn't this boisterous sloan ranger. >> the press were calling her disco di and she realized that she was being perceived as frivolous. >> diana actually had an epiphany. she said i might be young but i can't act in a way that other people do. and it really set her on a separate path. >> most of her public engagements had been about supporting prince charles and his duties and she began seeking things she herself could do in her own right. diana chose things which were on the margins of things that traditionally the royals shied away from. people dispossessed by society, people who had been neglected. >> she wanted to help people who were marginalized because, as she said to me, patrick,ky do this because i'm one of them. she understood what it was like to be rejected. >> it was a dynamic in her marriage. the fact that her mother left her. feelings of being rejected or abandoned were always there. >> there is now a danger that has become a threat to us all. it is a deadly disease and there is no known cure. >> in the mid 1980s, there was a huge amount of ignorance with aids. it was bound up with a huge amount of homophobia. gay men were represented as being diseased. >> the middle sex hospital is the only specially designed aids ward. this shows you just how fearless and radical she really was. >> the male nurse on the ward is himself hiv infected, spoke out to her about the minutes surrounding aids. >> the princess helped get that message across by the fact that she wasn't wearing gloves and she shook hands with the patients and myself. >> such as the aids stigma that patients in the new ward were afraid to be seen in photographs with the princess. >> only this patient agreed to a still photograph and then only with his back to the camera. >> the sight of her shaking hands with somebody who had aids in the 1980s was extraordinary. ♪ >> that picture went around the world. and it immediately busted the myth that you could transmit aids via human touch. ♪ >> it was really one of the most pivotal moments in her life. it showed her that she had the power to make a difference. >> diana realized the power of her royal platform. and i think she was at the forefront of this new kind of celebrity philanthropy. >> traditionally the royals supported causes that were very safe. the royal family's reaction to diana choosing aids and hiv as a cause was why can't you do something nice, a little less controversial, but diana just plowed on. she continued on with what mattered to her. >> the knowledge that what she was doing was doing real good for people who really needed it, gave her a sense of self worth. >> that 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whose aids were complicated by mother's drug abuse. >> i was eight years old at the time princess diana came to visit harlem hospital and i was excited my mom would be welcoming princess diana to the hospital. >> she came in and she said where are they? we just took her to where the children were. she could not wait to get there. >> during the late '80s crack cocaine ravaged our neighborhood and with the drug addiction came promiscuous behaviors, sharing of needles and many of the modes of transmission of hiv/aids. it was a pandemic back then. these children were born with hiv and also severely addicted to crack. >> as she went to the room there was a little boy she went over and picked him up and he kind of just held on to her arm. and you could just see the love that this woman had for humanity. she was letting people know that you can be with them and you can love them. >> staff tell the princess they were surprised she'd come to harlem hospital, a place never visited by any american president and few major political leaders. >> at the time even our own government had not dealt with the aids crisis. they couldn't get a grip on it. she really gave it the attention it merited. >> she chose to come to a small, community hospital in the middle of a minority area during a crack epidemic. i can't say enough about the courage that takes. i just thought it was amazing that she would come to my neighborhood and actually say let me see your struggle and let me lend some assistance to it. >> diana had proved her range. that she could be the glamorous, uptown princess but then also dive really deep into these taboo social topics of the time and accomplish real good in the world. >> the press turned on a dime. suddenly she was as one headline said, di-vine. >> diana's eight years into her marriage. she has come a really long way in that time. she now feels strong enough to confront the major torment in her life, and that's the other woman. >> she accompanies prince charles to a birthday party and among the guests is camilla parker bowles. >> nobody expected me to turn up but a voice inside me said just go for the hell of it. >> she got a stunning outfit and got very special lingerie. she had decided so she told me she was going to make charles realize what he was missing. diana still thought as late as 1989 there might be a chance to salvage something. >> it's like entering the lion's den, like going into enemy territory where everyone else is in on the secret but you're the butt of the joke. >> everybody at that party is part of the charles and camilla axis and are jaw droppingly astonished when diana marches downstairs and speaks to camilla. >> i was terrified. i said camilla i'd just like to know what is going on. don't treat me like an idiot. >> just for diana to look camilla in the eye and say her piece is a huge show of power. the key phrase is not i know what's going on. it's don't treat me like a fool. >> she said to me you've got everything you've ever wanted. all the men in the world fall in love with you. and you've got two beautiful children. what else can you want? so i said i want my husband. >> the moment camilla said you should be happy with what you've got diana must have realized oh, my god this is going to go on forever. camilla is not sorry. she is not even pretending to be sorry. >> in the car on the way back i cried like i never cried before. it was anger of seven years coming out. i had done some things. i felt different. a shift. i said what i felt. still the old jealousy and the anger. >> diana's decision to confront camilla was sort of a breakthrough for her. >> from this point on diana becomes increasingly disillusioned with the sham that is her marriage. she is about to take control of her own story. >> marriage offers stability. >> here you have her husband the future king of england in love with someone else. she was like a tinder box waiting to explode. >> isn't it normal to feel angry and want to change a situation that is hurting you? >> this was her going totally rogue. she was risking it all. not knowing where it would lead. >> diana is effectively planting a bomb under the royal family. she wanted her truth to be told. marriage offers stability. >> diana is in a loveless marriage, and really is living a lie. >> for many of these marriages, reality fails to live up to expectations. >> here you have her husband, the future king of england in