Transcripts For BBCNEWS The Truth About My Conception 20240710

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In all the fireworks and all the razzmatazz. But i was particularly pleased with this as the cauldron opened and Naomi Osaka turned round, shes just got this, like, little cheeky look on her face and shes looking up at the torch and it was just a really, sort of, nice moment. This ones actually probably one of my favourites. See both the little gb flags on the blades, and both the same kind of distance from the water, and i feel like everything just kind of comes together. I mean, Simone Biles is right up there with the greatest athletes of all time. You know, ive photographed her a lot through previous olympics and World Championships and when she is in full flow, she is a sporting perfection, absolutely incredible to photograph as well. Perhaps these games have, you know, were seeing a different side to her. Shes holding the chalk, you know, the chalk for the rest of the team and shes pulling her mask off and looking a bit sad and vulnerable, and i think that picture really tells that story of that day for me. Historically down the years when people look back on the tokyo games, that was in the middle of that pandemic and there were no spectators there. As sport photographers, we want to turn around and say look, you know, the picture that sits in history is something youve ta ken. Now, on bbc news, across america, Dna Testing is uncovering a disturbing side to the largely unregulated fertility industry. Angelica casas reports. I see you, Evie Cheering across america, Dna Testing is uncovering a disturbing side to the largely unregulated fertility industry. I had prayed for 15 years to have another child. I was given this referral to see a Fertility Doctor, and i agreed to do the Artificial Insemination and that we knew that it would be an anonymous donor that would be used. Families have found out decades old secrets, turning their lives upside down. I took 23andme. I had no idea what i was about to stumble upon when those results came in. Hundreds of women who believed they were being artificially inseminated by anonymous donors say they were duped by their Fertility Doctors. Cases of doctor daddies, where Fertility Docs use their own sperm i to impregnate patients. Her biological father was actually her moms Fertility Doctor. It didnt make sense. Like, how . How is that possible . These cases are really coming to the surface now with the popularity of Genetic Testing. Were not the only ones in this. I mean, there are hundreds of moms and children, maybe thousands in this country. The number one question is why he would do any of this . They are now creating life when God Couldnt do it naturally. What does that do to a mans ego, the sense of power that that gives them . So, is it Aunt Mia . Yeah. Yeah, Aunt Mia My Name is Eve Wiley and i live in dallas, texas, and im the product of Fertility Fraud. Most of my life, when you look at pictures of my sister and my mother and people in my family, i didnt really look like them. When i was 16 years old, i was going through my moms emails. She had been communicating with the cryo bank. At first, i thought, what is my Mom Doing with my grandpas cattle . Do you want to feed one . No, no. Charles, dont. Do you want to feed one . Charles, dont do it. Why . Because it was saying things like sperm and, you know, i grew up in a small town, my grandpa had cattle. Thats when i saw my birth date. And that is how i found out that i was donor conceived. I went to my mom as she was getting ready, and i said, hey, mom, i know that doug is not my dad. Say, hi, mama hi, mama i lost my Dad Doug when i was seven years old. And at the time, she was saying, you know, when you would understand the complexities of death, how do i tell you that thats not your real dad because youre donor conceived . And so when i found out that i was donor conceived, i was immediately curious. I wanted to know who he is. And i quickly became frustrated because i couldnt get answers. So, this right here, thats doug. After more than a year of painstakingly searching, eve finally found who she had been looking for. Steve is his name, donor 106. He is the most wonderful, warm, amazing person in the entire world. A relationship thats still ongoing for 14 years, to the point that my kids call him poppa, we spend holidays together. He even officiated my wedding. But in 2019, eves Family Happiness was again disrupted when she took an at home dna test. Thats when i found out that he was not my biological father. Shouting you have these moments in your life where theres a before and an after. This is what that felt like. And my world stopped. Kim mcmorries The Hero that was in my parents stories, the man that was able to get them pregnant when all they wanted was a child, when they struggled with years and years of infertility, the man that delivered me was my biological father. Crying dr Kim Mcmorries, who was still a practising Fertility Doctor until his retirement in the spring of 2021, later admitted to her in writing that he mixed his sperm with that of a donors to inseminate eves mother, margo williams. At the time, this was entirely legal for Dr Mcmorries to do, in texas and really anywhere else in the united states. Since i had been a donor while in medical school, i spoke with one of my mentors, and he said they were having better success by mixing samples. I believe this may have been what happened in your mothers case. As far as the mixed straws at insemination, if the Genetic Testing confirmed, it would appear that you did inherit some of my genes. I hope all of this can be some help in confirming your roots that i am your biological father. I was 30 years old and i was starting over for the third time in my life. And that was a bomb that. Just sent ripples and ripples, and something that we are still dealing with the traumatic aftermath. What you got . Ive got pictures. Pictures . Yes, maam. Its been a while since ive seen any of these. Mom and dad on their wedding day. Theyre like the age your kids are. Yeah, dad is. Yeah. Theres me out of the womb. And theres my dad holding me. I always wanted children. From the time i was a little kid, i always pictured myself a mother and having children. Hi well, i had had testicular cancer that made it difficult for me to father a child. Between the two of us, we sought out drjones to help us conceive and start a family. Would you say you trusted him . Yes, very much so. Cheryl and john also fell victim to their Fertility Doctor, Dr Paul bjones of grand junction, colorado. They went to him twice for help in the 1980s. And, both times, he allegedly used his own sperm without their consent to inseminate cheryl. There was no law against this in colorado at the time. This is a photo of tahnee being born. And you can see Drjones In the photo delivering tahnee as well as his nurse that was attending. Yeah, its surreal and. Kind of gross. His story to us, or to me, was that theres a lot of medical students that come down and they were the donors, and thats what he said to me. I just. I lost all respect for him. You know, there was just no integrity, no ethics involved. I want to know what he was thinking cos its hard for me to think that it was anything good. I there were so many other options that itj didnt have to be him. And, to me, that speaks to the L Narcissism and the god complex. And i dont want that. I dont want any part of that. Im angry at him. Im hurt. I want to ask him why. To know that i came into the world like that, with him taking advantage. Of my mother and her desire to have a family, its gross. Using dna, Maia And Tahnee have found at least 12 other half siblings who they say were also conceived with drjoness sperm. Drjones, who has neither admitted or denied the allegations against him, gave up his medical license in 2019 after his alleged offspring came forward. It definitely messes with your head. You question your genetic identity, who you are as a person. What you thought for, in my case, 38 years of who you are and where you came from is totally changed in an instant. People used to tease me about my nose in High School Cos it was so long and pointy. Thats very similar to his. Very narrow. And the smile lines. He has the same smile lines. How does that feel . Weird, like you dont recognise the person staring back at you. Theres not very many people that can understand what were going through and offer the kind of emotional support that we need. Through all this, i found a whole group of people that i never would have met before. There are other people that are, like, in the same situation as me, and we call ourselves donor deceived. Its horrifying to find out that your mothers Fertility Doctor actually was your biological father. The Donor Deception came in in the 19705 and � 80s when doctors like dr Kim Mcmorries in texas or Dr Pauljones in colorado used their own sperm to inseminate women who were their patients after telling them that he would use the sperm of a donor, usually a medical resident resembling the husband or sometimes even the Husbands Sperm itself. While the patient was lying in an examination room, he would go down the hall, produce a sample, and then use that sample in a relatively short period of time to impregnate the women. And for nearly two decades, most of these cases were unheard of and these doctors were still practising. According to professor madeira, a0 to 50 doctors worldwide are believed to have done this, creating several hundreds of offspring. In the late 19705 and 1980s, there was even less regulation than we have today. And i think you have to take a look at what culturally Reproductive Technology was like back then. So, Reproductive Technology has always sort of been stigmatised. It was always done in secret. Given that secrecy and stigma, its no wonder that there was very little regulation. Today, its not so stigmatised. And its estimated that more than 12 of women between the ages of 15 and 49 have received some kind of fertility treatment. My Name Isjessica Stavena and i was conceived via Artificial Insemination with a donor. My mom has always been, you know, very honest and very candid with me my entire life. Im the type of personl that i want her to know who she is, and who her family is and who she is. And so i knew all along that if i had another child doing i the Artificial Inseminations with anonymous donor sperm, that i would tell her the story. I would not want her growing up not knowing it. I told my story to everybody because ijust thought it was so incredible, and to me, that made me feel even more wanted by my mom. Even in elementary school, jessica wrote about her experience. When i started this book, thats where i started it. Dr mcmorries started helping my mother in august 1984. From that date untiljune 2nd, 1986, my mother went through a lot of pain, disappointments and travelled many miles. Her trip back to the doctor onjuly12th, 1986 made it all worthwhile. Dr mcmorries did a Pregnancy Test that showed positive, which meant she was going to have a baby. Here i come. Exactly nine months later, on march 5th,1987, i came into this world and my mother was the happiest person in the world. About five years ago, i started having these very drastic health issues and concerns, and i was seeing, you know, doctor after doctor after doctor, trying to get a diagnosis to figure out what was going on. I purchased a 23andme Dna Ancestry and Health Kit last january in hopes of guiding me in some sort of direction to give me answers regarding the health issues i was having. But ive known my entire life i was donor conceived. So, in the back of my mind, i was like, what if i have siblings . What if i find a Sister Or Brother . And i had no idea what i was about to stumble upon when those results came in. When it opened, it connected me with three half siblings, and so im like, oh, my god my husband and i are both like, oh, my god. Oh, my god. One of the half sisters, it only had her initials on 23andme, and then i get a new Friend Request come in, that the name matches the initials, which was Eve Wiley. At that time, i hadnt heard her story at all. So, i wasjust really excited, you know, to be able to connect with half siblings. And i wasjust like, oh, my god, you know, ive always wanted this. So, i immediately began to connect with eve and she asked me, do you know the details of your Birth Story . So, im just so excited. And in my mind immediately, im starting to type, you know, i was donor conceived. And im trying to type all this out because im thinking, 0h, she probably thinks that i dont know that i was donor conceived. She either asked me who my mothers Fertility Doctor was or was my mothers Fertility Doctor dr Kim Mcmorries. And so i said, yes. And shes like, well, i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but hes also our biological father. I couldnt even finish. Reading the sentence because it didnt make sense. Like, how is that possible . I mean, hes my moms doctor. Theres no way thats a thing, right . Like, thats not. Thats not a thing. At the time that most of these inseminations took place, nothing about what the doctors did was criminal, and holding them accountable today is difficult for several reasons, including statutes of limitation, destruction of evidence such as medical records and laws regarding consent not directly matching the doctors conduct in each case. When he became a doctor, he took an oath to do no harm. And i feel like he completely disregarded that 100 . And, yeah, my moms 0k. Shes not hurt physically. Right . But if he thought what he was doing was absolutely 0k and ethical, he should have had that conversation with all of our moms. But he didnt. Why do we not have laws in place for this . But how can we have a 24 Billion industry that allows for things like this to happen . And no one talks about them and theres no punishment. Theres no accountability. And so thats when i decided to go lobby for a Fertility Fraud bill in the state of texas, and it passed. Its very clear to me that it should be a violation of the law. Thank you. No federal law in the us prohibits or punishes doctors for Unconsented Use of their own sperm to inseminate a patient, and only five states have created laws in the last couple of years to criminalise doctors who do this. In texas, the Law Eve helped pass goes as far as criminalising Fertility Fraud as Sexual Assault and classifying the doctors as registered sex offenders. It felt very validating to get that done. There are still bad actors, but you need to have these boundaries and these consequences to prevent people from doing this. Holding the perpetrators of Fertility Fraud accountable, i think, says several things. First of all, were not in the 70s and 80s any longer. So, when we hold these doctors accountable, it affirms patients autonomy. It affirms that doctors cannot merely replace what they want to do for the will of the patient. So, did we decide, are we going to do the Family Dinner when its my turn, just on. I think we should because its your turn to host the Family Dinner anyways, right . 0k. We had the option of feeling sorry for ourselves and doing nothing and staying hidden. Or we could go public and file a lawsuit and Pass Laws and try and make something positive come out of this. And so thats the Route Weve chosen. The emmons family, along with other possible offspring of Dr Paul bjones, have sued him for the alleged Unconsented Use of his sperm in many procedures that took place between 1975 and 1989. In drjoness defence, he said cheryl had consented to being inseminated with sperm of an anonymous donor, and thats what she got. Poor cat. I know, he worked all night. The toughest part is waiting for some sort of resolution. J the courts move slow. We are constantly just. Hurry up and wait has kind of been the last two years, i and you reallyjust want answers and closures. I this has turned Ourl Family upside down. Were very quiet homebodies, stick to ourselves. And here we are forced i into a situation we didnt want to be put in. Theres three that are waiting for the claus. And here we have lava. Who didnt Wake Up. Who didnt Wake Up even though it is her first christmas. Look at the face. She hasnt quite got this figured out yet. Maia and Tahnee Have a younger sister, grace. She was a Miracle Child conceived without the help of Artificial Insemination. The last couple of yearsl have been a little rough. A little strange, a little weird. But i dont know. Not. I dont know. If i had to pick a date and time, it would probably have been when i did find out that you guys were full siblings. And i dont mean that to. Say to make you guys feel guilty. It was just simply that that was just the reality of it. It was, like, that day was when i go, ok, i need to process this with myself. I definitely can understand how, like, thinking wise, the Dynamics Change and you kind of were like, ok, illjust hang out over here. I probably would have distanced myself for a while. I think i put up a lot more Defence Mechanisms than i was willing to admit that i did. I felt very, very guilty that i was dads daughter. Ijust felt. I wanted to feel so guilty for that. You guys are just my sisters and youre my best friends and you have been since day one. You helped raise me, you helped teach me everything. Very good. By the way, could you put your arm around your sister . There we go. Laughter let me turn the volume up real quick. Wait, can we go back to the playground . L 0k, show hutton. Go show hutton. Hey, hutton. Say hi to poppa. Hi, poppa, wherever you are. Steve, or donor 106, had genuinely thought he could have been eves father. Despite finding out that he isnt, their relationship is ongoing. Hey in our society, we have this toxic positivity. And when we hear something that is hard, we feel like we have to deflect our own discomfort. And so we say things like, its not that bad. Well, it wasnt your real dad anyway. You wouldnt be here if it werent for him. My personal favourite, at least you have doctor genes. And so i think that those marginalising comments are really hard because you dont feel seen, you dont feel heard. And then no ones acknowledging the importance of genetic identity. Singing using dna matches from their 23andme genetics test, Eve And Jessica have been able to identify at least a Dozen Half siblings. I look at this photo and i think a lot of things. Im sad that i was so dispensable and im super creeped out. Its a hurtful photo because, like, lam. I am nothing to my biological father. That hurts. It seems so cold and calculated, and it is something so foreign to who i am and how i go through life, and how i experience my relationships, that its hard for me to relate to someone like that. But at what point do you become so callous to this and so calculated that this is just a normal routine . Like, how does this become normalised for him . The bbc reached out to both dr Kim Mcmorries in texas and Dr Paul bjones in colorado. Neither responded to our multiple requests for comment. I feel like this circumstance bringing us together has really been the only Silver Lining to this entire situation. To be able to look at someone and see a bit of yourself, it was a unique and new experience for me that i found very settling and comforting. Absolutely agree. Thats. That was one of the things when we first met, it was this instant connection. Something that, you know, ive never had before, ive never experienced before. Its only been a year, but, like, i also cant imagine my life without her. Hello. Well, this changeable weather, with the frequent showers and occasional thunderstorms, will continue for another couple of days. That is, the rest of today, sunday and monday is going to be quite showery, too, but, from tuesday, things are looking on the up. Heres our current weather map. The low pressure sitting right on top of us. The heaviest showers are across more northern areas. You can see a lot of cloud across the uk. There are some breaks. In fact there is a big break and that will develop across more south western parts of the country to the second half of the afternoon so places like Cardiff And Plymouth are in for a decent end to sunday but very heavy showers there across scotland, Northern England and northern ireland. Very light winds here so the heavy showers are slow moving, downpours and even flash floods are possible, at least really locally. I think better weather, come the evening, leaving across the central portion but the southern counties are in for some wet Weather Tonight as we see a cluster of showers dip across the channel there. Are in for some wet Weather Tonight as we see a cluster of showers zip across the channel there. Its going to be a relatively mild night, 12 14 degrees it often is when we have low pressure over us. And the low pressure certainly is over us on monday, but it is just starting to drift in the direction of scandinavia but the weather it brings is still very much influencing our shores. So monday, another showery day but what i will say is that the sunny spells will be more prolonged, more frequent, it will be overall a more pleasant day and i think there will be some slightly higher temperatures, too, because of that sunshine and the lighter winds. Temperatures up to around 21 or 22 celsius. Remember, scattered showers possible almost anywhere. More especially across northern parts of the country and the heavy showers may crop up again in the North And East of the uk on tuesday, but generally tuesday is looking much, much better. Much drier, much lighter winds. And midweek, we are expecting an area of High Pressure, a nose of High Pressure to build ahead of this cold front here. And slightly warmer air heading ourway. Not hot but warmer compared to what we have had so far in the last few days. Temperatures could get up to around 25 degrees in a few spots and you can see that gentle climb in the temperatures until thursday. I think next weekend, the weather is not looking bad in the south. In the north, there could be some showers, but i think, overall, yes, better. This is bbc news. The headlines at 6pm. After more than two weeks of thrilling Sporting Action the tokyo olympic Games End with a spectacular closing ceremony. More gold medals for Team Gb Lauren price wins the Womens Middleweight final and cyclistjason kenny, becomes the countrys most decorated olympian. Another provincial capital in afghanistan falls to the taliban as they continue to make ferocious assaults against key northern cities. 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