That i will return to this, you responded very easily to tanyas question, as you explained it to yourself there lack of initiative, yes we call it that now, now we know about it before you described its just that shtir should simply come to the music 17th moment of spring and you are very responded easily and began accordingly, to explain with such joy, you know, we sat down on such a psychological defense, which is called rationalization, but one of our favorites, of course , i then need to explain everything to myself, i understood it then, why did i ask the question, why do i need to explain . But i would still ask the question, how did you feel when a man does not answer, when a man does not insist, when a man does not take the first steps, what did you feel at that moment, that you had to rationalize it . Anxiety, what were you worried about . But that there is something wrong with me, and they dont choose me, they dont choose me, yes, so he never chose you, and im afraid that mom is also not indicative in this regard, because mom seems to choose you only when everything is fine with you, yes so and real, there is also weak, there is also stupid, there and sometimes aimless, sometimes lazy, that is , all those qualities that, because i said, at the very beginning of your story, i said, while it sounds like a dream woman , and you are like that, theres a dream woman, a dream man, youre a dream friend, well, youre wonderful, thats great, only you are very lonely inside there, yes, because behind all this beautiful spacesuit, and. I see a tuna, very small girl who really cant cope with whats on the outside, and as if in a real relationship you havent been there yet, youre already a mother of two children, but its as if youve never been in a real relationship, so you need to get out of there, recognizing absolutely all the qualities in yourself, all the flaws that are inherent in other people, recognizing, accepting , but moving further without creating illusions. Your task now is to find a way to get out of this spacesuit of a cool daughter, a cool mom, a cool wife, a cool friend, a cool woman, a cool teacher, a cool employee, well , you just need to get out of this space suit and really feel the pain that you have been avoiding for so many years, and may not choose, but yes, there is of course such a risk that they may not choose , but otherwise they dont choose people who dont choose themselves, yes, but otherwise you seem to be married to yourself, and everywhere you seem to be in a relationship. With yourself yourself, there is no other person, you do not allow such an opportunity to encounter this reality, you create such a cushion between you and other people, it is closed very much by actions, activity, this contribution, giving , as you call it, support, promotion, all this, in order , so as not to collide, not to show my true self, i noticed this in myself, that its easier to mold such a golem, yes, yes, because i m not sure that i can handle it, because im not sure that i can be there for you joyful, happy, satisfied with everything, here well, heres a simulacrum, here you go, i have an assumption that you dont really build such Close Relationships with children, but replace it all with this activity, i m breaking through, developing, im breaking through in this, namely because for the children, when i understand that my first point is not to cause psychological trauma, and i realized that without causing psychological trauma, it seems that i cause them, by the fact that i start stuffing the child there with knowledge, i start forcing the child there, or rather turning child into a perfectionist, of course, without inflicting, you simply inflict , at least even by your absence, because you are not alive, stop the race oksan, really, try not to avoid pain axan, find your own way to experience the pain, where. Real loneliness, where truly it hurts that they dont clean you up, and in general, in principle, to get to know yourself, you know , then you will only begin to get acquainted, otherwise the creation of this. Shell, this tool, you will pass on further, and your children will have it more improved, dont pass on this baton, can i ask you what was the most important thing for you today, what you endured, living through pain, growing through pain, i really really dont want to, and what im faced with now, when, well, the relationship ended with, that i began to constantly ask. Yeah, hes constantly in the position of a beggar, the fact that the family has debts, the fact that the financial situation is difficult , yes, i work, but this is still not enough for a family of two children and two adults, but then he offered to just live separately, but a person decided to disappear, it seems, the very beginning is just now, and he disappeared , lived in a change house, somewhere on a construction site, and i called and said, how is this possible, then tell me, are you refusing children, are you refusing . From everything, i miss you too, i filed for divorce, its sad, but i expected this from you , i cant resist your decisions, i cant do anything, i dont feel like i have the power to change anything, wait, seriously, you dont care about me so much, i feel like im probably making a mistake, im destroying what you and i seem to know, hes for you are an excellent indicator of how to choose yourself, it seems to me that he is wonderful in this sense, to show, so yes, he is so comfortable, you watched the podcast triggers and with you were its hosts, psychologist, psychotherapist tatyana krasnovskaya, psychologist and psychotherapist sergei nasebyan. You can watch all podcast lab projects on the website of the First Channel 1tv. Ru. Hello everyone, this is a podcast from the lab, and today we, together with fashion blogger, stylist and tv presenter karina nigai , will discuss what we remember about the last few weeks fashion. Karin, hello, hello, lets revive the memory of our viewers a little, what are fashion weeks, who participates in them and where do they take place . But in fact, fashion week is an event that takes place once a season , there is also couture fashion week, which. Takes place at a slightly different time, but this is an event when all the great couturiers show their new collection, and there buyers, vip clients of brands come there, media personalities, actors, bloggers come there, and there are presenters in general, everyone who has attitude towards the world of big show business, they actually watch this action, that is, this is such a performance, these are big shows, this has long gone beyond just. Models who show clothes on themselves, this is always something unusual and every time designers try to surprise us somehow. You were at Milan Fashion Week this year, and as someone who went there, i was like a fashion influencer, uh, i visit fashion week very often, and its usually not only milan, its usually new york, milan, paris , this year i i decided to do only one fashion week, due to the fact that i still have some Television Projects and other responsibilities, but i. Really love milan, because it is always the warmest, and i have the most shows there , because i am very familiar with the fashion industry in italy, since i was there for some time, in milan, in my opinion , this year, and there were the most interesting shows , the most interesting performances, because the creative directors of some brands have changed and it was their debut, it was very its interesting to see how the brand is now changing together with the new creative director, so in my opinion, milanskaya dictated exactly the main trends of the season. Which stars did you manage to communicate with . We were able to see the main characters of the series gossip girl, this is Leighton Meester and this is ed westwick, of course, big stars such as julia roberts, and the main ken, whom we watched so actively, too. There were, yes, well, a large number of stars, hollywood stars, french cinema stars, in general, honor to the style i liked it the most, my eternal favorite is kendel jenner, because she always looks impeccable, and i personally look up to her style, tell me, as an influencer, coming to fashion week, for you its primarily work or leisure and entertainment, probably bloggers and fashion in general creates the appearance of a holiday, but in reality this is not the case, behind every show or behind the work of an influencer on a show there is a lot of work, lets start from the very beginning, this is what work looks like behind the scenes, we see, we are the audience we see your beautiful photographs, videos, reels, but what is behind it, where does your day start at fashion week, and what time . The day usually starts at 5 00 in the morning, makeup artists come and accordingly prepare you for the exit, assistants prepare clothes, we steam it all, because we have about six to seven bows that we collect, well, depending on the number of shows, we all we load it into a big car, and. In fact, our life at fashion weak takes place in this car, we eat there, change our hair, change clothes, in general, we live in her, because at every show you go in a new image, you need to come to every show in a new image, moreover, between shows you have, well, 3040 minutes, so you dont have time to go to a hotel or somewhere, you you need to change clothes right in the car, comb your hair, have time to eat or make some content between shows, because every brand is waiting, well , accordingly, for some kind of advertising, presentation. What happened, and you need to keep up with everything, so you are in an eternal race, for 4 days you simply disconnect from all reality, you you immerse yourself there, this eternal race continues, plus during fashion week i publish about six posts there a day, when all the Fashion Shows are broadcast, you have to analyze what was in the collection, actually write about this is where you have your own opinion, at least briefly, but show yourself, show what happened, tell, maybe, about the trends that existed, and when its such, you know, a cycle, youre a little freaked out by everything thats happening, and so you get a little tired but its crazy to me i like it, in any case, its very interesting, this is a world that is inaccessible to a huge number of people, and it really arouses interest, i once looked at it with such big eyes and thought that it was impossible to get there, but now somehow in my life it happened that i succeeded, so i really appreciate it , and in general, every minute spent at this kind of fashion week, but tell me, is it necessary to come to a brands shows wearing things from this brand . In general, there is a socalled dress code, yes, that you have to come in brand clothes, but personally this year, i made a decision for myself that i would not come in brand clothes, i would take brand accessories, that is, i could take a brand tie or a bag or shoes or Something Like that decoration, but i used clothes from russian designers, it was like this. My message is that i would like to support them, i would like to show that our russian fashion is just as cool, interesting and generally no worse than european, how many suitcases and things did you take with you . At i had three suitcases and a couple more small ones, and which russian ones did you take with you . I had daniil tstsiferov, my friend, i love him very much, and the red september brand saaril, and i had small brands. Such as ironova, well, in general, a large number of brands, in fact, each time there was Something Different , here mordo was with me, a brand that im actually wearing today, by the way, this was a straightforward question, i think that many viewers were now waiting for you to tell what youre wearing today, its russian brand, yes, this is the russian brand mordo, in fact, it seems to me that it specializes in this kind of outfits, from such mesh fabric with some kind of pattern, usually. Something very tight in the style of the 2000s, i am very impressed now, actually this is a decade, so you want to wear it, and how did they react to the fact that these were russian designers . In fact, no one understood that these were russian designers and most people approached me and asked who they were, i had never seen this, it was so new and so interesting, so it was as if we werent i have enough power to make myself known, and i made my small contribution to this so that. You in europe learn about our brands, well, thats great, youre such an ambassador for russian designers now, definitely, i buy shoes and accessories there from different brands and european ones as well, but my wardrobe is purely made up of russian designers and russian brands. Tell me, for you, is an influencer a profession or a hobby, or is it some kind of intermediate option on the way to, say, becoming a stylist, i believe that a blogger is a profession, it is a very difficult profession, no matter what it looks like. On the internet, but for me this profession is becoming intermediate today, yes, that is, my future goal is still television, so its cool, i like this path, i was a stylist, became a blogger, now from a blogger i am becoming a tv presenter, and as if this stage is very inspiring, interesting and sets an example for other girls who would also like to follow some similar path, everyone may have a different goal, but nevertheless, blogging helps you to manifest yourself, helps you show yourself and reach this goal, so for me it is definitely a profession that is very inspiring, well, probably, the bad influencer is the one who does not dream of becoming a stylist. In fact , observation is very important in the profession of a stylist and you need a lot watch the same Fashion Shows , try yourself, you need as much practice as possible, only this helps you shape your figure correctly, work with color correctly, sew in trends correctly and so on, that is, if you. Look a lot, you do a lot with your hands, its a craft, but you dont have the feeling that someone is given it, and someone is not given it, because there are people who have an observation, but there is no result, no, i think that everything you can learn, especially, that is, good taste can be acquired, you can nail it, of course, in fact, we always forget why it was given to someone, well, that is, perhaps in childhood your mother had amazing taste, and you , looking at your mother, took your example developed from her, its just that it developed with you since childhood and it seemed to you that, well no matter how much you put any effort into it, but your mother made an effort into it, someone develops their insight already at a more mature age, when they take some courses or when they go somewhere to study, and even there they develop their insight , this is not a given, this is something that can be developed and this is not higher mathematics, where i dont know whether some kind of knowledge is needed or beyond. Here this is fashion, this is a game, you need to play it, you need to study and practice as much as possible, then you will definitely succeed, these are not lykomshits, today we are talking about Fashion Shows the codes that are encrypted in them, my guest is a stylist, fashion blogger karina negai, you generally use clothes, or your images , in order to influence people in some situations, for example, when you need to produce. In some sexy outfit, are you using this . I even have a whole master class dedicated to this, i absolutely love doing it, and even if we read some images, for example, read your image today, you knew that i would come, im such a daring girl, thats why you put it on red so that you can be a super presenter with me and be my cool opponent, the stylists told me. I came in black, i needed something bright, we had several options , but im not in black, im not in black, and even your silver cossacks, this is about high fashion, this is about what you dont wear every day, because that i am sitting in front of you , maybe some other person would be sitting, and you would choose a completely different image, this does not happen by chance, sometimes we do it intuitively, sometimes stylists actually do it they think about it so that the correct connection occurs and it looks beautiful not only in the frame. But in our interaction with you it was beautiful, and how comfortable do you feel when you, for example, violate the dress code at an event, but we all have such situations when you somehow didnt have time to prepare and came where you need to be smart, lets say in some casual outfit or vice versa, thats how you feel in such situations, in general, since im a fashion person, absolutely everything is expected of me, and if i i didnt come in dryskoda, everyone thinks that this is a new trend, so i feel absolutely comfortable. Here, but i try to keep it cool, it seems to me that this is important, this is respect for the host of the event, this is respect for oneself, and in general this is correct, so i try to change clothes in the car if necessary, and or not come to the event at all event, if i dont have time at all, because of course im still expected to comply with the dress code, since im a person who broadcasts fashion, i have no right to make a mistake, but how do you feel about the fact that many fashion figures, they have some of their own external features, like anna ventour , for example, her bob or. He had such a memorable image, and this is cool, today i would single out annurus, because he is a woman in a super mini in super bright outfits, and at the same time she is such an aged woman, but who looks simply amazing, i admire her every time i see her at shows, its always a extravaganza of sparkles, sparkles, bright colors, sometimes even some neon colors , which you cannot apply to yourself. And here she is so slim, a beautiful, amazing woman who personally admires me, but how do you feel about the trends that everyone suddenly starts wearing , from influencers to ordinary bloggers or people, such as the fashion for a beige trench coat, or now recently everyone suddenly wears trousers with padded jackets , this is how you feel about this and do you wear this, and of course i dont like the mainstream, when everything has already been tolerated like. You wear this, but i like to modify trends, that is, for example, there is a beige trench coat, yes, thats it everyone reviled him plus or minus some classic shape, but i dont know where it is, a straight cut, defined there for. Just below the knee and so on, i like to modify something, that is, most likely in my interpretation a beige trench coat will be with leather black inserts, it will be of some super incredible shape, for example, with wide shoulders, maybe with some interesting lapels, maybe the length will be floorlength and not kneelength, and so on, that is, i have a setup like this everyone, that is, every trend can be modified to suit you and to suit your style, and here it is very important to understand that a. There is a trend, but there is a style, and if you have this style, then you can always adapt the trend to yourself, then it will not look like the most ordinary beige trench coat, now, if we go back to fashion weeks, what are more interesting shows for you personally, tradition