Marti Friedlander “I’d spent literally decades not confiding in anyone about the things I’ve described in the book,” says Charlotte Grimshaw. (Photograph, 1993, published as the cover of The Mirror Book (Vintage), courtesy of the Gerrard and Marti Friedlander Charitable Trust.) About ten years ago Charlotte Grimshaw hit a wall. The award-winning writer, mother of three, wife of a high-profile lawyer and daughter of literary legend CK Stead discovered her husband was having an affair, which sparked a crisis in her marriage and later in herself. With the help of a psychologist, she began to question her childhood, her damaging teen years, her adult aversion to women, and the complex dynamics of her family.