Dear How to Do It,
I’ve been married to my husband for more than 10 years, and we have a wonderful sex life. He’s attentive, generous, good in bed, and very good at going down me he almost always does so prior to intercourse. The problem is that I have developed a pretty intense gag reflex over the past few years. I’m not sure if it’s because of medications that I take I’ve been on several at different times throughout our marriage because of a chronic condition but other than that, I have no idea what could be causing it. I’ve had a deviated septum since I was a teenager, which can make giving head difficult whenever I can’t breathe through my nose, but in my 20s, I never had any problems going down on any lovers. Now, I’m close to 40 and feeling in my sexual prime, and yet I often don’t initiate performing oral on my him because I’m so prone to gagging. I gag nearly every time I brush my teeth these days and have even thrown up a few times while doing so. I jus