Dear How to Do It,
My partner and I (19 F, 18 M) have enjoyed an amazing sexual and romantic relationship at a distance during the pandemic times (we live at opposite ends of the country). For a little context on our sexual history and preferences, we are both very kinky people. I am a sadistic, exhibitionist dominatrix and she, a masochist, also very exhibitionistic, submissive. We are deeply in love and treasure the relationship that we have. Now aside from kink, both of us are interesting lovers. I’m someone, who while dominant, loves to edge, usually for 3+ hours. It hinges on my partner reaching their real “soul-shaking” orgasm of the night, and I time to finish alongside them. My partner is someone who loves everything I do, but has never reached orgasm, though both she and I are confident that she can. She finds that when she gets close, she gets anxious, overwhelmed, and shy, and her arousal decreases just enough to keep going without finishing.