By @TobyChilliShow
Apr 16, 2021
Money can be a hot-button topic for couples and the subject is the root of a lot of fights in relationships. No matter how long you’ve been together, chances are, at some point you’ll end up bickering about the cost of school tuition, how much you spent on your latest Target run, or someone’s “frivolous” spending. But counselor Catherine Richards has figured out a way to avoid most financial arguments and it all comes down to five simple words.
According to this relationship expert, saying this phrase during the heat of the moment can diffuse a fight in a flash. So what are these magic, deescalating words?“Help me understand this cost.”She explains that we often lose our ability to listen because we’re so intent on having our values heard, but this phrase helps us slow down and get a better perspective on what your partner is trying to say.