i road my bike home and confronted my grandfather, i mean, i think in many ways that was really the first time that i became a reporter because i was trying to, like being investigate how could this have happened? you know, my grandfather was just trying to do what he thought was best, and he didn t imagine, again the plan was basically, you know, get an under the table job. s work at the flea market or the best buy or bus tables and then marry a woman and get a green card. that was the plan. of course, when i was in high school, i came out, you know, as being gay, and so that complicated matters even more, and i remember probably the worst conversation he and i had was when i told him i m not going to live another çlie. i am not i m not going to not only am i going to be undocumented, but i m also going to marry a woman to get a green card. i wasn t going to do that, you know, and in many ways i think the hardest thing about all of this is, like, how you honestly live with a lie