it s nice and you want your kids to like you, but you don t patronize them. you don t give them things they shouldn t have or allow them to do things they shouldn t do. melissa: this is what i love. you have to allow your kids to confront these situations, as opposed to the snowflake generation, they shield them. i thought of this, i was on a playground of my son when he was younger and someone came over and smacked him with a wood sword. this was downtown and chelsea. a normal parent would have yelled of the other kid. i look to the other parent and i said people have been whacking you with things your whole life. you have to figure out how to deal with this. my thought was, move away from this crazy child. that was a lesson he should learn. but you always go out and protect your child from everything going on. bill: sometimes kids have to be protected.