i know but i then got into a relationship with a man you know and after a while. i realized it was doing me good. but i told him from the outset that i wasn t gay. he was like well what are we then. so that didn t feel quite right either. realising that he belonged in the body of a woman he came to the conclusion that only a sex change could make him happy. imagine how it would feel as a woman to have a man s body you think like a woman you have feminine needs you want to be seen and treated like a woman i was able to free myself from the body i used to have not the other way around i m not a man who became a woman by operation. melissa always considered her identity as michael