for days without opening her eyes? she had no facial expressions. she wasn t speaking. so there were no trademark smiles. right. there wasn t that trademark expression in the cheeks and the eyes. she was a little bit of a blank slate at that particular point, wasn t she? yes. is that perhaps it? that when people face a trauma like this and a world turned upside down, that in some ways you see what you re told to see and believe what you hope to believe? it s quite possible. all our energy was focused on making her well. healing her. and it became her identity we talked about. her altered state became her identity. yeah. and you say it well. none of these things we were looking for. we weren t looking to establish this wasn t our daughter. viewers are all saying why didn t you notice the teeth or the shoes or whatever.