you want to make sure that they re vetted and they treat your loved one as well as you are, but you got to find some way to have self-care. good morning. how are you? doing well. how are you? great seeing you. oh, it s a beautiful morning. sure is. got everything for today? yes. got the key? got the key. okay, good. one of the things that dad s doing right now is he s getting physical therapy and exercise. okay, so you got your pills for today? got the bills. do you have your phone? i have the phone. yep. and he goes to an adult day care, we call club vet. it gives me time to go run errands, to go work out, plan a evening meal. when my wife had a stroke, i would take care of her, make sure everything was done right. right off the bat i d say, that s my job.