first of all, we know this is a very traumatic for children, but why does it take so, so long for some people, into their 30s, 40s, even 50s? i ve talked to very many victims, and you realize that what it is, is that they re anxious to come forward with this sort of allegation. they think it reflects on them or somehow it s their fault that they were abused, and so they put it away in a place and it has significant impacts on their lives, where they don t want to face up to it. and they don t want to report it. or they have no evidence. it s their word against an adult. in it my case, i had some victims who described the doctor who abused them as wearing a gun under his lab coat, so they had a lot of fear. people that perpetrate these crimes are very clever, and usually in positions of authority. so there are lots of reasons kids don t report. how do we deal with the back side of that also? i know the church has raised concerns about it, and others have too. what do you do if you r