privileges. she says that s how you instill confidence in your child and that is a gift you re giving him or her, dr. cloud. here is what parents have got to remember. self-esteem does not come from a child being told they are special and wonderful and all of this. self-esteem woman s from one thing, primarily and that is being competent. again i m not after the psycho screaming and threaten to throw the bunny in the street if you don t do your homework. megyn: you re garbage. yeah, all of that. this is very true. there us a study. what is good about this is that kids do well when there are standards that they have to meet, and then they can actually enjoy learning, because they have successes, and that is very encouraging. megyn: what about that stacey. the self-esteem part, there s a study that s been done that shows that teenagers crave self-esteem comments more than sex, more than being told they are beautiful, more than being told they are good, they want
threats, seriously death threats in the wake of her new book titled battle hymm of the tiger mother. in it she indicates that asian-american mothers are better mothers because of their strict approach to parenting. now it s tiger mom against soccer mom. stacey nelkin is a parenting expert, and we have the author of the law of happiness. dr. cloud. you a tkraoe with amy chua and say her theories, we said in some of the teases, she never allowed her children to attend sleep oefrs, have a play date, be in a school play. watch tv, get any grade less than an a. not be the number one student except in gym and drama. when the children fell behind