former stepmother could have anything to do with their father s murder. i was her friend. i was her friend. i live with her. so, no, i didn t think she was a suspect at all. then think read the affidavit detailing the conversations between pam philips and ron young. would you sit in a women s prison for murdering would you sit in a women s prison for murder? it s at that point that we realized something was wrong, that the whole thing wasn t right. what was it like for you to read, this woman who had been your stepmother and then a friend, looking at your father s murder? i wanted to throw up. in november of 2007, 11 years after the murder, heather and brian, along with gary s youngest daughter, filed a wrongful death civil lawsuit against pam phillips and ron young. robyn gardner, elliot s mom. the point of that wrongful