going, that this had to be incredibly stressful. and she said, her exact comments i ll never forget these words. life with harold is hard. reporter: brother todd and sister-in-law rhonda also looked back and thought how difficult it could be to get toni on the phone without harold listening in. you call their home number, you call her cell phone number, and you could call his cell phone number. reporter: and he would answer? he would answer. when we spoke to her it was never just her. it was always him and her in the background. reporter: tammi recalled how harold used to come into toni s office as if he owned the place and how in his presence, toni, the self-confident doctor, seemed to melt away somehow. she said i ve just learned long ago it s just better to let harold be right. reporter: did that make you kind of sad? that made me very sad, and that s when i really thought
pickings possibly. reporter: and the clock was ticking when it came to starting a family. so in her late 30s, toni turned to a place many do to find a mate the internet. she chose a christian dating site. finding a man who shared her faith was very important to her. she didn t tell her little brother or his wife rhonda right away about her online adventure. but she did share her secret with her good friend allison talley. did she give you updates on how it was going and if she was meeting anybody? i didn t really ask. but i did know that she had met a couple of guys. reporter: then toni met the one. handsome guy, little bit older than her, charming, incredibly charming. just extended a hand immediately and well-dressed and very polished and well spoken, very professional looking. reporter: his name was harold henthorn. according to his dating profile, he lived in colorado and worked as a consultant to non-profits.
mississippi. and every southern lady ought to be able to cook some fried chicken. and little did she know that, you know, when you took it out of the freezer you d have to let it thaw. reporter: frozen fried chicken aside, toni was someone who set goals and made them happen. after college she went to medical school, and in 1988 graduated in the top 10% of her class. then she settled into a new practice and a new marriage with a young dentist. but the woman who could do it all couldn t save a relationship that wasn t working. she tried. but after seven years the marriage ended. i don t think my sister took failure well. and so i think that was a disappointing time in her life. reporter: todd s wife rhonda remembers how toni continued to thrive at work, but her love life stalled. her career was extremely important, and so there was a time issue there. she didn t have a lot of time to probably go places to meet guys. she went to church, and she went to her job. and to be honest,