Extra-marital affairs are a lot more complicated than they are entirely lust-driven. Part of the complexity is hidden in why would a partner cheat but simultaneously still claim to deeply love their spouse? Also why would many of those cheated on, still be unprepared to leave the relationship despite the deep wounds of betrayal and broken trust? Cheating is not a deal-breaker for many couples at least not in practice.
Go long. When you step on a 9’0” it is a slightly different crew of surfers you ride with. A little more mature in attitude possibly, laid back, slightly more mindful and a touch more likely to stop and smell the roses. All personalities are valid. Sanguine, melancholic, phlegmatic and choleric equally apply to those who cross-step, but perhaps a little extra emphasis applies to the longboarders when it comes to style, grace and enjoyment.