go will i and hougly and hostil where arguments and not affection were the family routine. s joan now says she realizes she was manipulated by her daughter. i gave up. i hate to admit it. i gave up on that child. i didn t know what to do. joan turned the task of parenting elizabeth over to major david, the military man, who did what he could to keep military order. he was definitely the tough one. he was the one that would decide the punishment, how long the grounding was going to be. a war of wills. david would ground her. elizabeth would escape. david responded with locks and alarms on her bedroom doors and windows. she squirted out anyway. nothing seemed to work. what can you do, if you can t