i love that analogy. we think of the 14th amendment, passed in the aftermath of the civil war, the 14th amendment creates american citizenship, full stock. equal protection due process may have happened in result of racial inequality movement. if we can get to that level of coalition and start to have conversation likes this, to your credit. having conversations where we are hatching out some issues, labels versus coalition, separation versus togetherness. how do we move forward? what kind of laws can we put into place? allison, a quick chance to weigh in. as i listen to you talk about the issue around prisoners versus marriage, one of the reasons marriage is one of the issues versus prisons is a respectability issue. we all want to be nice and