but i think generally, for most people, it behooves you to wait. i have three daughters. and i think getting married young is not the answer. having said that, i understand what this mom is saying. she s making two points. she s making one, about target marketing. you will never be in an environment again with more like-minded people than in a pure social environment. but i think the more important point is so many guys don t get married until their mid 30s because of career, career, career. i don t want anything taking my focus away. yet, women who do that wake up in their early 30s and they can t flip a switch as easy as tomorrow i m going to find a husband and they re up against the clock. they have a clock. and, no, no, guys, it s i really mean that. there are so many women i meet who have just been completely career-focused. and they wished they had a woman like this to say this is what s important in life. focus on this. and the career is important, too, but this is the ult