was born and lived my whole life knew me as lady ruby. i built my own business around that name, laruby s unique pressures, a pop-up shop catering to women with unique fashions. i wore a shirt proudly proclaiming that i was and am lady ruby. actually, i had that shirt on i had that shirt in every color. i wore it on election day 2020. i haven t worn it insurance. i ll never wear it again. now i won t even introduce myself by my name anymore. i get nervous when i bump in to someone i know in the grocery store who says my name. i m worried about who is listening. i get nervous when i have to give my name for food orders.