what does that mean? most women are born with the perfection gene. we want to be the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect community participant, doing work within the community. somehow, we re never happy with what we do in each of these jobs. we sort of work ourselves into a frenzy. most of it is our own internal pressure. i think we all have to learn to let go of some, focus on some, a different part of the day, a different part of the week. i ll be honest to you, i m a victim of the perfection culture, accept that i had the desire to cope with it. in retrospect, i wondered why i was wire today differently that i could do all of that, michael. but it s a lot. it s a lot. i don t know if you ve seen the photographs that we ve been flashing in the brief conversations. one of them has you in the aisle of a supermarket. it looks like an official visit.