anything you love cause she s after your personhood. so stand up for yourself. tell her to back off. steve: just like that. good luck. all right. keith, the next one is kind i said do it. they should do it. steve: the murphy brown syndrome. my husband fired four secretaries in the last year. each one seems like the perfect candidate, but he finds something wrong. then he complains he s stuck working without help but he fired them. nor or nuts? here is the thing, i had an employer once, married four times, getting married for the fifth time and he said here is the key to no one the first four, you swear it s them. yeah, the guy is crazy. right? he needs to stick with somebody cause it s not them. steve: nuts number two. gretchen: if off question, log on to our web site and e-mail dr. ablow your questions and he will answer them truthfully every week. always great to see you.