use hanukkah and christmas and these spiritual holidays to get into the grieving process, and get through the grieving process and not just the mental health techniques, but also the spirituality that is all that is left for many of these people, because we as psychologists and psychiatrists, what can we go to listen and offer our support, because at this point it goes to a higher power to try to understand this depth of tragedy. jeff, i so appreciate that, because i recognize it that not everyone who is watching claims religious faith or those sorts of things, be but there is something that i appreciate from you as a sipsychologist to talk about faith as a tool of resiliency and as horrifying as this loss might be at the holidays for those who do claim some understanding of a higher being, and it does not have to be organized religion, but there