training, not trying. you don t jump in the ring and try really, really hard. no, you train. you train all your life not only by being intentional but by seeing people around you and seeing what works and what doesn t work. you must have rules of engagement for a fair fight that sets both people up to succeed. we have a whole bunch of rules. one of them name calling. if i m in a fight with her over the remote control and call her a big fat we re not going to get much farther in our argument over the remote. that s not going to be effective. we have a list of 12 of those. if you can fight by those rules, you normally have productive outcomes. got it. look forward to watching marriage boot camp, bridezillas, we tv, thanks so much for coming in with tips. thank you. boy, marriage sounds like hard work, doesn t it? talk about hairbrained, he just tried to entertain your