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so where did this come from, you felt people need to get a marriage checkup, because some folks are familiar with, you know, marriage counseling, but you say this should actually precede that in what way? oh absolutely. i think just like your regular dental checkup or your annual physical health checkup, those things are there because they are useful tools to help us take good care of our dental health, good care of our physical health, but there hasn t been anything that s sort of the equivalent for our marital health, and our marriages are a health system. so they deserve that same kind of love and care. so you said there are actually some signs to look for, when you realize that, you know, maybe there s trouble in paradise, and at the core, you say, of trouble in paradise may simply be, you know, intimacy or lack of intimacy, but there are lots of definitions of what
the things that matter most deeply to us, we need to take really good care of, and the nice thing that i think about, something like an idea, like the marriage checkup is that it provides this regular opportunity to turn our attention to how we re doing, what our strengths are, what our weaknesses are, and come shoulder to shoulder in relation to that and move forward together as friends and partners and life is just so busy and complicated these days that it s very easy to not give it the attention that it deserves, so we end up in this place where i against the analogy i ve been using is imagine that you only went to see the dentist when one of your teeth really started to hurt. at that point, something s gone horribly wrong, but oftentimes our marriages are so quiet that they don t really make any noise for a long time, and then when they start to make noise, that may be a real indicator of an