Left scratching their heads. My famous saying was, theres got to be something wrong with tom for him to stay with dar. Reporter cause you couldnt do it . No. Reporter you couldnt be around somebody who was, what, that much the center of attention . And telling you what to do. Reporter and that controlling . Dar was not a domesticated person either. Reporter the foleys were married in 1994, and right from the start, dar took the lead. Fair to say that she wore the pants in that house . Id a probably 75 , 80 of the time she d. She was the breadwinner . Yes. You stayed home and took care of your son . I did. Reporter heath was tom and dars only child and the center of their lives. And we just loved being together. We were always together. Reporter and so the three foleys lived on the outskirts of coldwater in an Old Farmhouse they called the heath bar farm. A pictureperfect family until that winter day back in 2009. What was the last thing you said to her . I said, i love you, and ill see