if i could just add, i teach a class called the politics of masculinity and we teach exactly that point. one of the points people don t realize is that it is also incredibly bad for men. men die sooner from all these preventible causes of illness trying to be a tough man. you re more likely to die in violence than die in a car wreck. so in a way it s like men saying why should i care about this feminist stuff. it s actually good for your mortality to pay attention to some of these issues because this prison of the hedgemonic construction of masculinity is also very, very bad for men. so i was thinking that one of the things that ties into everything that everybody has said around the table is that this is really systemic, right? so whether it s the judges who sometimes are women who are letting off these rapists or whether it s media who have up
one of them said no girl is going to break up with me. at the time all the media coverage was what could make this happen? it must be the rap music or violent video games. and nowhere in that discussion was it must be what they said it was, which was this entitlement to female attention, this entitlement to female bodies. it must be sexism. and i wrote at the time, i wrote if media and in particular journalists weren t going to investigate and name this as a gender-based hate crime, they weren t going to tell the public what the warning signs are, media would be continuingly complicit in more crimes. then the amish shootings, the virginia tech shootings. at the time i kept saying this is a man who stalked women on campus, this is a man a female teacher said she didn t feel safe with, and still the