occasions and went to prison several times and served time in mental health facilities. was it because i carried him angry? was it because my dad and my husband had the abuse in them and it was in joseph s genes? perhaps, in the end, only his mother knew the real joe palczynski. he said, mom, one day the whole world will know of me. i said, oh, stop it, joseph. sometimes we talk goofy, you know. i just ignored him, but that s the last thing he ever said to me. on mother s day, 2001, pat long returned to lynn whitehead s home, the scene of the hostage standoff, that cost joe palczynski his life. she wanted to commemorate her son s death by placing tokens of affection on the front lawn. angry neighbors tore it apart.
if i were to turn my back on joseph, he would have had no one to look up to. i think he would have been dead long ago. so you gave him unconditional love? yes, i did 100%, and i don t regret it. i loved him with all of my heart and i will love him until the day i die. he was good, and he had a lot of good ways. he just couldn t help there was something wrong with his head. several times joe roughed up stacy. his mother, pat, would sometimes mediate his arguments with his girlfriends. how many times do these girls have to bang their heads against the wall to say, ouch, it hurts. it s obvious, they didn t mind getting beat. they kept coming back for more. you can point at both of them. you can t just point all at joe. remember, it takes two to tango, bottom line. that s how i feel about it. carol alexander runs a shelter for battered women in baltimore called the house of ruth. she says that joe s mother played a role in enabling his dangerous behavior.
when i heard he was shot, i not only was relieved, but i kind of said to myself, you met your match. it s over. you are not going to hurt anybody else again. still ahead i have a lot of anger because my family is not the same. it was very damaging what he did. left a lot of scars. was it because i carried him angry? was it because my dad and my husband had the abuse in them and it was in joseph s genes?
joe, look, i am here for you. joe, i am here to get you some help. i need you to come out, joe. i need you to come out, and i need you to release the hostages and come out as soon as you can. i need to you come out right now. i m here for you. bill toohey is the spokesman for the baltimore county police department and was immediately on-site for the standoff. joseph palczynski and television had this were obsessed with one another. joe palczynski wanted television. television wanted joseph palczynski. when he started taking people hostage, the first thing he did when he went into that house was turn on the television. the palczynski murders, kidnappings, two-week manhunt and hostage standoff had become a media circus. when he was on the run, he had with him a portable two-inch television set and a stack of batteries. when he went into the motel the second night out with tracy whitehead, the first thing he did was to turn on the television and saw his picture on the 11:00 news