ainsley: sitting next to each other. every woman loves it you see the couple in the booth together. every man is like i would never do that. that s so embarrassing. you say don t worry about it. they do it in paris at the cafes. ainsley: i know. here is how i learned that i have been married almost 14 years. we would put the kids to bed and my wife come in to my office and get into a fight. i it turns out we were doing everything wrong. first of all, i was at my desk. hit computer equipment. my feet up on the table. my wife is in a broken down chair from my first apartment. her arms crossed upset. turns out number one, sit at the same level if you are having an important conservation. sit, i was just thinking this is why it works on this set. sit next to each other. across from each other brings out conflict. next to each other and having a conversation soft surfaces fight less. brian: might be in theory great in france because they speak french but if you are