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How To Avoid Choosing Badly in Love
“You can’t choose who you love” is a very bad excuse.
Although human attraction still remains a mystery to a certain degree, we all know by now that love is a matter of choice. You choose who you date, who you love, and who you share your life with.
“You can’t choose who you love” is a bad, yet extremely convenient excuse for people who get stuck in similar toxic dating patterns, always end up with dysfunctional and unfulfilling relationships, and are unwilling to identify their problems, work on themselves and improve their romantic choices.