consider the alternatives. for instance, if your spouse is nagging you, look, you got to fix the toilet! here s the alternative. call a plumber. i know it s going to cost some money. call a plumber. no, no. that s according to the experts. that s one of the suggestions but then the person gets off the hook for everything. you re going to call somebody to take out your garbage? kids. that s what why you had you! you guys are trying to get out of any responsibility on this couch. here s one solution they offer. first of all to calm down but to try to do it in a more ginger fashion. for example, leave little post-it notes in their lunch box or down where they put their papers before they leave for work. i know that one of the best things that ever happened to me were these devices. because i text my husband some things that i know maybe he doesn t want to hear face to face. you could even text yourself. text yourself. i have a great idea, i don t know if it s here anywhe