tough love. she called her style, a benevolent dictatorship, but honestly, it wasn t always benevolent. when our children got older they would spend time visiting gamp yichlt and gammy. when they came home, they were pitching in around the house and didn t fight as much, and they were actually nice to be with. i attribute this to the unbridled fear of the ganny lecture and habit forming effect of better behavior taking hold. even in her 90 s mother could strike fear into her grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and children if they didn t behave. there were no microaggressions allowed with barbara pierce bush. but in the end, every grandchild knew their ganny loved them. we learned a lot more from our