it might seem an unlikely step for two men who spent a lifetime fighting for gay civil rights. were you activists early on here? absolutely. it was with act up. it felt so good to finally yell out and say, no. theirs is a story of how love changed everything. tony remembers the moment they met. gary was across the room across a crowded dance floor and our eyings met. that s such a cliche. it s totally true, it absolutely happened that way. they married in canada. the u.s. doesn t recognize the marriages of same-sex couples. though five states grant gay couples limited marriage rights. we ve been talking about having a family for a while. family to them meant having their own biological child. that means doctors, lawyers and a whole lot of money.