that was the shooting in san bernardino, california which was perpetrated by a husband and wife. 14 people died. what s happening to our boys and how can we help colleague steph ruhle sat down with a group of young men to explore the prs pressures of masculinity and why some eventually turn to violence. if you want to be man enough, you don t cry. you can t show pain. you can t show upset. man up, dominate, turn it all off. reporter: emotional struggle, a fact of life boys find obvious, but it s largely gone ignored. until recently tragedy forced the conversation. when the parkland shooting happened, i just felt so sad because we ve been living with this time and time and time again. reporter: michael ian black, a comedian and writer, penned an op-ed for the new york times that went viral, pointing out