your nose to the ed grind stone. she chose a tough gig, helping architects navigate new york s byzantine building regulations. that seems like the kind of business for a tough, savvy, hard-edged type woman. that doesn t sound like the woman you re describing really. oh, you know what? she was enormously successful because she was hard working and she was honest. you know, she shined, and people just could trust her. but it sounds like there was just one part of her life that was missing, just love, finding someone to spend her life with. did she talk about that? um-hmm, she did want a family. in early september 2004, that dream suddenly seemed to be within reach. she was thinking this could be the guy, absolutely. it was labor day weekend, a sunny day on nantucket. bernadette called her friend beth. i said, hi, hi. i said, you know what, i think i m looking at your future husband right now.