is a good idea. nevertheless, shele was moving on. and so was rod. he was very charming, intelligent, funny and in a quirky sort of way. and i really enjoyed playing backgammon with him. debra oles met rod at a backgammon tournament. months later, their relationship became romantic. i was looking for any sort of relationship. and he was pretty aggressive. i think i was naive in the fact that, i m considerably older than rod. so, it never occurred to me that he would be interested in me in that way. so, it surprise you when he made an overture? right, of course it made me feel good. you know, for a man to be attracted to me. need, shele let s working with divorce attorney, lance meyer. we talked about all the problems she was having with her husband and the concerns she had about herself, her children. and she was really trying to figure out the best way to go about proceeding with the divorce case. by fall, she was dipping her toe in the dating pool again.