i m trying to imagine what it was like for the family. this amazing, accomplished, interesting, intelligent family, when the leader child was charged with murdering his wife, a woman who you all loved. it was a total shock. you are going, they don t understand. if they knew him, they would see how wrong and impossible this was. even worse, prosecutors filed nor the death penalty. any chance for bail for steve given the charge was remote. still the, the whole democker family gathered in court forrer the hearing. which coincidence, had been scheduled for christmas eve 2008, then, it was delayed. it was this crushing blow seeing that, the wheels turn painfully slowly in this process. and so, we left and we are standing out in the corridor, then, they were just starting to bring steve out, and we said is, you know what, let s just sing him a christmas carole, so we started singing