Subject which ive been doing for decades now that really seriously, its a couple years while i was writing the book i found empathy coming up more and more and i began to realize the things i have learned that came to the essential were good communication often boiled down to empathy. But i first i wasnt crazy about that idea because i didnt trust the word empathy. When i first began to hear about the it started to show up in our culture and awful lot a couple decades ago. And when i started to think about it i thought this sounds like a very soft, q. Week, new ag emotional kind of emotionbased thing that im not sure i believe whats being transmitted by that notion. And then themore i worked on it, the more i realize that for me , my definition of the, the way i think about it is not the way everybody thinks about it. There are many meetings that empathy has two different people. To some people it means compassion. It means sympathy. It means getting to the other person. And letting th