ellen now held an executive level position at a large dealership. she was the boss to 30 mechanics, and making upwards of $90,000 a year. she put your feet to the fire, to make sure you get the job done and move on. she was no pushover. she was no pushover. she stood up for herself. right. inside the walls of that nice home, allen s rank was near the bottom. he became very condescending, controlling. where i could go, who i could see. at home, mike made the rules and ellen obeyed them. you had a significant executive job at a big company. yes. so, you re not some little shrinking violet, whose home cowering under her husband s direction? but, when it came to being home and opening that door, i was that shrinking violet. that s how things were, he ran the show. it was two different ellen s,