feel like as if you are taking something away from them. i had done everything that you could imagine, in terms of being proactive. and so i realized that i couldn t achieve my way out of this. my name is joy. i always believed that first comes love, then comes the marriage, and then comes the baby carriage. but at some point, you realize that life is not so simple. i remember doctors asking me, are your periods heavy? but, how do i know what s heavy is? how do i know it s normal, because all i know is my body? i remember laying down at night one time and i saw a bit of a protrusion. i m thinking like, what s going on, is this normal? and maybe around 23, 24. going to the doctor, and him telling me that i had a thyroid.
and breathe the trouble of each one of you every single day. with everyone that i see. and i just can t tell you how meaningful it is for everyone that you re sharing. and i think it will help to remove the stigma. remove just the feeling of inadequacy as a woman. and you just talked about women not getting the appropriate attention to their health, and health care. and that s true, that s real. that s real, the amount of even just research dollars and funding that goes towards women s health. it suggests abomination. so, i am just so happy to see all of you sharing, and really taking this to the next level and step of where we need to be in women s health. especially minority women s health. the veil wasn t opened until i started sharing what was happening to me. whenever i was in a conversation with someone who
this is ours. i know each one of you in different ways, and i think about we talk about the fairytales. first comes love, then comes marriage. and i think about my bridesmaids and all the girls that were behind me at my wedding day. then when i close my eyes and think about all of my friends, you know, more than half of them are having problems. we would never we never saw it coming. tell me no, when you are by yourself and you are laying your head down on your pillow at night, do you allow yourself to grieve for a second? then you snap out of it? for the longest time are used to rely on my will power to get me through and say, just keep focused on the destination. at the time the destination went, you re going to get the baby. i am a problem solver.
later. the real serious hard work of partnering. we were on a ski trip in utah. and i thought i was pregnant. so i bought a pregnancy test. got up early, still kind of like twilight outside. and went to the bathroom and took the test, and sat there all by myself. and two blue lines. climate back invade, tapped him on the shoulder, showed him the two blue lines. he flips out, i flipped out, we are crying. it was a beautiful morning. and then we got back from that, and then i started to miscarry. a few months went by. then it was some healing, and some space, and some sense. first of all, the amount of
but because femininity has all of these veils, they ll, after vail, after veil. we feel like we can talk about things like miscarriages. there is an expectation that we are, we go through life moving on. you know how we say all the time check on your strong friends? and we are all our strong friends. because of the fact there is this expectation that you are supposed to just keep on moving. why would you crumble? you are going to crumble because of that. it s happening to plenty of people. so you never feel, and you don t know what that expectation is. i know for me, i think it s important for people to be informed. more than anything else. like ask questions, i think sometimes going to the doctor s office can be very intimidating. and you know, unfortunately in our medical system. like they have to move on, and they move on quickly. sometimes you can t even ask a question before they are out the door and seeing the next patient. that s why this conversation though, is a four total