valuable. i mean, there is something that has come out of this. yeah. i think that s right. i think the elevation that has come from the media korng in that regard has been healthy. look, i think three lessons should come out of this entire sad week. one is that these gold star families all grieve in their own way. none of them suffer this kind of sorrow in sort of a cookie cutter approach and you need to respect that. number two, messages transmitted don t always mean messages received. yes, you may have said the aim sa thing to all four families, but at least in one case it was received in a way that hurt them. and he should just recognize that, be man enough to recognize that it was received in a different way and apologize for it. and number three, and this gets to paul s excellent point. i think it s time we have a very serious conversation, not just about the cold star families and the families of the fallen and the wounded but about the civil military divide in this country an