the trap is at one level basically saying, i don t you. you are stuck in dynamics of an abusive relationship. but that is condescending like who am i to say that to janay rice. she s an adult human being with agency over her human life. what do you interpret what she is saying? she s expert of her life. she s going to disclose what she wants to disclose. whether that s because that s the truth or for safety reasons, no one knows. that really is her story that she will only know the truth of ever. her and ray race. from an advocate perspentive, we d always talk with janay and see what she wants to do. that s a key policy conundrum, right? you have a system, a criminal justice system in which you can t prosecute if the witness who happened to does not cooperate. and then you get, it seems, at the other side these patterns of abuse that seem to go